Need advice

My GF slept in another room after our fight last night... get this; We started talking about sex and the fact that I masterbate everyday and she wanted to know why. I told her because I like doing it, I get horny and I need to release. She still kept asking why and told me that she can see how other women get offended when men do this. Although, she never sees it because I never look at it when she is around. She also thinks I would rather have that than have sex with her. We also talked about the give and take in sex. She doesnt understand about taking care or giving pleasure to me because she says I will get mine no matter what. she got mad at me telling me that I am not being understanding and went to the spare room to sleep. My ex-wife was the same way.

She is 26, has only had 6 partners, thinks sex is VERY private, and says she is opened minded. At the same time she is very stubborn and opinionated and has the "I'm right all of the time" attitude. I tell her all the time that she would be perfect for a debate team or being a lawyer.

The sex is bad... here is how it goes each and everytime. We undress, I use a toy on her or go down on her, she orgasms, we have sex, then we are done. Hardly any positions, just the missionary, doggy, and on top. She barely touches my penis in anyway. There is just no excitement at all. We talk about it, but just like most things we talk about, it's all about what I am doing wrong.

Granted, she is pregnant, so the positions are limited, but she improve on other stuff. I do not get taken care of at all. The last time I was totally taken care of was at the party a few weeks ago by a friend. Another friend took care of me a week later, but that was just hard and rough sex... I know with them, that if we got closer, they would be the type to take care of their man.

This all started happening when we moved to her home town, after we found out she was pregnant. Before that, she moved in with me and was away from her family. We seemed to be able to talk about anything and she didnt have a problem with anything. Now she does. I understand that she is pregnant and is irrational, but her views were like this before she was pregnant.

I am not wanting to get married, but at the same time I do not want another broken home, like my kids from my previous marriage have. I have been cheating on her, which I know is wrong, but I need to be happy. I have talked to her about counsiling, but I do not feel things are going to change.

how does she know you're masterbating if you only do it when she's not around?




sometimes I ask my husband...."Guess what I did today?!"

He'll make 3 guesses...then I'll say "NO! I masturbated!!!"



then we just laugh and laugh.

We talk about and she asked me... /shrug... I thought it was normal.

vegasdroopy wrote:

We talk about and she asked me... /shrug... I thought it was normal.

No doubt you're lying to her about being "taken care of" by your friends, so why did you feel compelled to tell her the truth about that?

Counseling.

That's what we told you before you cheated -- along with "don't cheat!". That obviously wasn't listened to, so... <shrug>