contra, perhaps our fathers attended school together. My Dad went to Brooklyn College, then Widener.
But I digress.
I looked up contra dancing:
http://www.sbcds.org/contradance/whatis/#Def0 I know that you're going to tell me it's not square dancing, and I respect that, but it seems like there are enough similarities that a lot of people who are into one are into the other. But of course a lot more people have heard of square dancing.
Since contra dancing is pretty old (http://www.freenet.hamilton.on.ca/link/jig/a_contra_dancers_primer.htm says it was all the rage in 1800), are there costumes that go along with it? If so, are there any occasions where you'd show off your talents? I am thinking about something comparable to the Renaissance festivals that come to a lot of towns (Carver, Mass. is one, it's just about this time of year).
Or perhaps is there a village restoration in your area, where docents dress up in period costume and explain history to visitors? Old Bethpage Village in New York, Colonial Williamsburg in Virginia and Old Sturbridge Village in Massachusetts immediately come to mind. If one of these events or places exists somewhere near you, perhaps you can get involved. Even if there isn't any dancing, there may be people who come, either to work there or visit, who would be interested. I knew a guy many years ago who worked as a blacksmith at Sturbridge; my parents know a couple who act as the parson and his wife (which is ironic, as they're Jewish) at Bethpage. I suspect that a lot of these places need people to do some forms of grunt work, such as cleaning stables or manually shoveling snow in the winter. It's not glamorous but it will get you out and about and among people of similar interests.
One thing about finding someone to love is that some of it is networking, e. g. it's almost like looking for work. You meet someone who knows someone, and they introduce you, and so on and so forth. Hence you might meet older people at a village restoration or at one of your dances, but they know other people, yes? One thing about meeting people and being shy is, the easiest thing is to try to make up your mind to meet people, even if they aren't the people you don't want to end up with.
I know that sounds nuts, but what I'm suggesting is, you say hello to everyone. The mailman. The nurse at the doctor's office. The school crossing guard. The person in front of you in line at the ATM. The gas station attendant.
Everyone. And some of those people say hello back, and sometimes it even leads to an actual conversation. It's not perfect, but it's a way to help with shyness. Why? Because you have nothing to lose. Who cares if the school crossing guard blows you off, or the guy waiting for the ATM fails to answer? So what! But what this does is, it helps to take the mystique out of things. And it gives you practice, so that when the wonderful contra dancing woman comes around (and I hope that happens), you'll know how to break the ice.
Oh, and what Noddy said. If you want to practice tone and all that in email, posting here is definitely a good way to do that.