This is all very true osso....
or, she might ask him and he might say "Honestly, I don't want kids"
I don't think it would be fair to him, after stating something like that, for another person to stay around, in the hopes that he will change his feelings.
If, let's just say for arguments sake, he says that...if she feels that deeply toward him (which she hasn't indicated), she could stay in the vicinity, keeping an eye out for the day he might change his mind, or take him for his word.
I'm thinking....what if the situation was reversed?
What if I didn't want kids, and a man I'd been seeing for 5 months looked at some kids in the park and said "Boy, I can't wait to have one of my own."
I'm I going to hand around in hopes that one day he will "change his mind" and decide he didn't want kids? No, because that wouldn't at all be fair to him. That's like an atheist waiting around until his girlfriend gave up and admitted there's no God.
First things first, she needs to find out if his remark of "someday" was one of those things he felt he was supposed to say.
Then, she needs to respect that whatever answer he gives her reflects his true wishes, and isn't something she can "wait out" or change.
I'm not trying to be ornery, just realistic. They say more relationships break up over money than anything else....I can see that as true...However that's not accounting for the individual, that can put up with poverty, illness and much more, but is stifled in his/her need to either have or not have children.
If I sound off, forgive me. It's just that I've had more than my share of people who just "knew" I'd change my mind..
Funny...I had this one guy I went out on exactly one date with. Sometime early in the evening he told me how "motherly" I looked. I remember looking at him, laughing and saying "brother, you couldn't be more wrong"...he spent the rest of the night trying to convince me how much I really wanted a child.