Vibrators

I'm going for it, feel like a new guy in town and don't want to upset anyone and be asked to leave.

My wife and I have used different "toys" before, not many, and she likes them and I like using them on her. I did alot of reading and bought the Hitachi Magic Wand. Great reviews and people saying it "wakes" up a womans libido. That is one reason I bought it was to maybe get my wife back in the "mood". When we have sex I always let her finish first, then I get to and sometimes I better hurry. I honestly don't believe my wife fakes it, because it can take a while sometimes. But we don't have sex that often and I always initiate it. I bought the "Wand" so maybe she would let me use it on her and hopefully use she would use it alone.

I guess some questions would be: have any of you used one? Did it help "get in the mood" easier? What toys do you like/use? How do you like the wand used on you?

I ask this because I've had the wand for about a month, haven't really used it on her, except her back. We've done "it" once since then and I didn't feel like it was the right time to bring a toy into the bed.

Masturbation is not talked about between us, never has. She is open to many things and doesn't get mad real easy, should I ask her to spend some time alone with it? Would that make you mad? Is talking about masturbation not good to talk about with your wife/husband?

If I haven't explained it I am married 12yrs, 2 kids, think my wife is the hottest thing walking on earth, and have been in love with her since I first saw her. My wife loves me, but isn't attracted to me as much as I am to her. I was different than the other guys she has been with, they were much better looking but were out for just one thing. So I'm try'n to get her to fantasize more.......I guess(I'm not eye candy).

Thanks for any help and info, I do appreciate it.