Has nobody even noticed that "marriage" is essentially a religious rite

The Government has no business conferring benefits simply on the basis of having completed a "religious rite".
Since many of governmental benefits; survivorship, transfer of property rights, inheritances, welfare benefits, etc.; to name a few are often only routinely availiable to persons who have completed a "religious ceremony" the persons who would prefer not to live with a person of an opposite sex are deprived of these benefits.
This is why homosexual and lesbian persons should be allowed to marry any where they want to in any ceremony that makes sense to them. No government benefits, or protections should be dependent upon a persons religious convictions, if any. The government should make no laws regarding marrige. It' a religious matter, period.
The care and welfare of minor children is a separate matter and certainly can be handled without recourse to some imaginary religious principles