Re: STAY OR GO?
faithbeme, it's a tough situation and my heart goes out to you (and your wife too, actually)..As everyone else has suggested, you both need counseling, of course.
But I noticed that you say:
faithbeme wrote:
I don't know what to do anymore, We always fight in-front of our little girl and the fights now have become so bad
I have become physically abusive. She pushes and pushes and pushes and I have nowhere to go
and I blow up.
I have noticed That I get angry very fast now. I use to never get angry. I noticed I
can be violent now to, which I never ever used to be. Its as if she brings out the worst in me.
And I her.
I have lived with an abusive mother. I used to live with my abusive husband, i know how it feels - especially the part about bringing the worst out of each other.
I know the hell you go through when you live with an abusive person but please please do not abuse her back (verbally pr physically). It does not help - it only pushes you also into the trap. Does she stop when you abuse back? NO. She only increases her momentum.
Of course, I'm not asking you to "give in" to her. You certainly need to take charge. All I'm asking you is to stop being abusive in retaliation. I have seen my dad do that - and it hurt me no end. My mom used to EXTREMELY abusive and manipulative - I truly wish he had left her instead of temporariliy becoming a demon from time to time.
I'm sorry if i went off to a tangent. I just thought I should give you the viewpoint of a daughter who lived with abusive parents.
Good luck. I hope you will be able to help your wife, youself and you child thru this.