Re: Drawn to other men
sakhi wrote:.... As far as I know, no one thinks I'm a flirt - I think (and hope!!) I come across friendly and "nice". ...
Most heterosexual men are going to think a woman is flirting if she fits the following three characteristics: young, thin and cute. Take any of those away and most men get that it's just friendliness, although of course there are men attracted to less thin women or older women or with a different idea of cuteness so there are variants.
I don't really behave significantly differently than I did when I was 19, but it's not seen as flirty any more, not by most men, because I'm 43.
So be aware -- you're friendly, you're being friendly, but not everyone gets the signals and some cannot read them or are suffering from wishful thinking and may be seeing something that you aren't putting out there because they want to see it. An old friend of ours had as her yearbook quote, "I'm not flirting, I'm just friendly".