Quote:Blacksmith, my hubby says, in order to protect himself, he may have kicked the girl or whatever.. Even if he did not and went under water for a sec, he would have known/learnt it was not an experience he liked and would have tried to save himself next time someone played a prank like this.
But since I interfered, I prevented him from learning it on his own.
Sorry, but your husband needs to back off and not interfer with your parenting skills. What you did, any mother/ father would have done. Thats your child in the pool, and like all of us...we'd like to take them home afterwards. That would be anyones initial reaction...
Now, if your still doing it at 14, then I might understand where he's coming from...lol, but not at 4. I could be wrong, but I just don't believe that all children have that fight or flight instinct completely intact at 4....
But maybe..before you take him to the pool the next time, you talk to him beforehand...... Tell him, if so~n~so does this or that, I want you to.....?????? react in this manner...and then watch how things are handled.
That gives him the option of handling the situation on his own, and you can praise him for making the right choice afterwards.