Quote:. . . Of course I started to scream and holler at him. . . .
Sometimes I think he just creates things for me to be pissed off at. I swear it's like leaving a child alone in a room with a box full of markers and a white wall.
Do any of your husbands do these type of things?
Yes. My man, on occasion, has done things that cause me momentary frustration or hurt my feelings, but I make it an absolute rule to NEVER get "pissed off" at him.
Those sheets could have been the best, most expensive sheets in the world. Maybe you LOVED those sheets. But, no matter how wonderful those sheets may have been, they aren't worth the harm that can be caused to your relationship by screaming or hollering at your man for ruining them. They're just sheets--but your husband is the love of your life--and you should never want to treat him like a child by verbally reprimanding him in an angry voice.
It's just a matter of putting these type of small frustrations into perspective. Sheets can be replaced easily. The same can't be said about your relationship with your man. I would just smile and shake my head or use my laughing, "having fun with my man" voice and say something like this: "Nice job honey! If you had asked me, I would have preferred to use a $2.00 piece of fabric from JoAnn's -- but this $200 piece of cut-up sheet works fine too!" (LOL)
If he becomes defensive (e.g., well, we never used those sheets anyway) in the face of your humorous response to his antics, you can defray his defensiveness by immediately acknowledging in a fun voice, "Hey, you're a grown man and those were your sheets too. If you want to cut them up, you can cut them up--no explanations necessary!" (BIG SMILE)
He's your husband--he's your MAN. Love him, have fun with him, laugh with him, respect him, and treat him like he's a MAN. Don't yell at him; don't treat him like a child. The better you treat him, the better he will treat you. And it makes for a fabulous relationship when a WOMAN treats her hubby like a MAN. Don't be his "mother." He doesn't want a mother. So, make it a rule to never pull out your "mother voice" and scream at your man no matter how tempting it may be to do so during those times of momentary frustration.