Sometimes, its better to get it out.

In the spirit of post secret.

My husband is slobby. Leaves dishes in the sink and makes no effort to get them to the dishwasher. The dishwasher is less then 2 feet from the rim of the sink. This pisses me off. It feels like a slap in my face.

My husband thinks I don't have a real job.
I have twins and a business I run at night.
Pet sitting and basic pet health care at your door.
That is my business.
My day time business is our kids.
I have 2 jobs.
I think he is jealous because I don't have to leave the house for one job, and he has to leave for his.

I am jealous that he CAN leave the house every day, has lunch with his friends every day while I am washing mashed potatos and ham off of the walls for lunch.
He sees his friends once a week.
I am lucky if my friends stay home from work with their kids , and they are not sick so they can come visit.
I am just learning about this jealousy I have to you husband.
I am sorry.
I will do my best to keep it contained because it isn't reasonable and not fair.
I know you would rather be at home with the kids instead of working in a crap little office.
I love you for making that choice everyday.

My husband is critical.
Not rude.
Critical.
Blunt.
Sometimes irritating.
He means well, and a lot of times has GREAT advice. The way he says it leaves me feeling like a 2 year old child.

My husband spends more time on the computer then with the kids.
He comes home, gives hugs, turns on the computer and doesn't turn it off until 1) he is ready for bed, 2) I ask him to put someone to bed / give a bath 3) for dinner.
I understand he needs time to wind down from work.
And he needs some 'free time'.... but fuckinhell guy.. come on. Almost 5 hours every day?

Take out the trash with out me asking.. ok ?
Simple?
You see it is full, and you see me with my hands full with kid stuff.. just do that would you?

Lets slow down during sex.
I understand with kids and work, we don't have a lot of time or energy, but it doesn't need to be a marathon to orgasm .
Ok?
I will talk to you more about this.. yet again.. and I promise to keep my patience and not be rude.. but
No. I don't think quickies are a great 'supplement'.
I think too many of them are selfish on your behalf.

Stop saying that it is ok to stay where you are in your job.
You know you could make more in another department.
You could further your career and make things easier at home with the extra money.
Just because you don't want the extra responsibility makes you sound lazy and makes me feel like our struggles are ok for you.
Even when you have the choice to change them... you back out.
Because you don't want the work load.
Thanks for your honesty about that.
I just wish that you had more drive and the fear of more work didn't keep you from going farther in your job and essentially increasing your paycheck.
You always say you wish you had more spending money and more.. everything.
This, from my point of view , seems to be a big step you could take to GET what you want.
I wish you had more drive..

I love you husband. I really do.
I know life is not easy for you either.
It has to be a pain in the rear end to HAVE to work now to support
people and not work just because you WANT to.
There is a big difference there. I know this. I live it too.
But sometimes, these things build up on me.
So I am venting.