slonie wrote:
KiwiChic how did you cope during those initial months. I talk to a women yesterday regarding finding employment. When I think about how all my old friendships were created I realize it was either through work or school, never just walking down the street...opps!
Slonie-
Well I was scared like yourself, but I thought 'stuff it' other people manage to do this surely I can too....so when my partner had an appointment at the dentist, I was waiting in the waiting room for him, and I just got up and walked down to the end of the shopping mall went outside and saw this huge place similar to where I used to work in, and I went in and asked to see the manager and asked if he had any positions available for employment.
He said 'No'....then I stood there for 20 mins, with no C.V selling myself and my skills and what I can do...he then took down my phone number.
The next day I got a call to start work...I made friends there, then I quit after 6 months and just did the same thing again at another place I got that job as well.
I think you have to just get out there and overcome the 'scared' thing and think in your mind 'well, I have nothing to lose'...but the first few months were very lonely and my partner and I, with our work rosters only got 1 day off together in 8 days...but with my 2nd job things got much better.
I found that most of my friends were made through work, what about the wives of your husbands work colleagues? Surely your husband can do something in his power to get one of them to show you the ropes..without you feeling like a charity case. I mean you are in a new country and Im quite sure that they would understand....