Life: Looking Back, Looking Forward

Lash! I'm giggling and grinning for you........ Who is he? Do I know him? You want me to find out the dirt if there is any?

He's a really sweet 55 year old guy who lives in a cabin in Dahlonega. <grins...bumps head on ceiling...>

I am so floaty and giggly. I look stupid. You should see the stupid grin on my face--and every time I try to get rid of it--it sneaks back.

He just called and invited me to dinner and live music in Dahlonega--

(He seems to like me) (His first flaw)

He doesn't look his age--he has Native heritage (dark skin) and the thickest hair (and he's feeling all liberal and Zen lately and has let it grow) ... (Am I in heaven?--someone PINCH ME.)

He's incredibly considerate. He said he wanted to call me on the way home from our first meeting--but he thought I may want to "think about things"--so he left me an email that night---and this morning---and he just called me--- I am so sorry!! I'm going to try not to blather about this very much.

Thanks for being so sweet, though.

He loves the blues, too, and folk and bluegrass--and that's the live music we'll be hearing Wed night.

Lilk-- If there is any dirt, I hope I'm the one to apply it.

<titters hopelessly>

(((((((((((ehBethlilknoddycrankythomasci))))))))))

((((((((((((world))))))))))))))

(Somebody is going to have to knock me unconscious)

Drink woman!

Where the hell is Dahlonega?

A bit north--at the foot of the Mountains... They have the most fabulous art and fiddlin' community!!! I'll get a map!

It's the 'heart of georgia's wine country' - who knew?!?!

OH! They have a Literary Festival, too!



They have more wine????

There's an Aussie walk-about! Looks like a cute town.

I was considering moving there and attending North Georgia mainly because of the arts community. I'll get pics. He says the view from his deck is breathtaking.

Lilk -- is your roomie shooting snot rockets in your shower? Can you rig a shower cam....well, I guess that may not be a good idea...

Nevermind. Rub your feet in alcohol, stat.

I bet it is! How'd you meet the mountain man?

Love has nothing to do with what you are expecting to get, it's what you are expected to give -- which is everything."

EH!

Who are you talking to?

Lilk-- I meant to film him shooting rockets in your shower. That should be illegal!

hmmmm. hmmmmmmmmm. Hmm!

Those bills look sexy on me, don't they?

They accentuate your strengths...

So, I should stop talking to other prospective date-ables? I've been "talking" online to two other mins... One has suggested a get together in a couple of weeks (a Jimmy Buffet cover band ) The wind blows him in and out of my Inbox--seems like a fun person to do things with, but no compelling interest .per me....The other, frankly, is ...scary. Sort of in your face psychologically and emotionally (the online equivalent of Christian on Nip/Tuck--only not as predictable)--and I'm scared of him. Tantalized. But, not emotionally equipped. He would likely want to show me Mr. Johnson before the night was over... and thrash through the emotional equivalent over appetizers. He used to be the type I'd go for, but only at the top of my game. I'm a handrag of late. Guess I answered my question re him.

1. I'm not being piggish, but if I close down other negotiations, it appears that I've settled on him--and I don't want to stake claims or get married. I also don't want my eggs all in his basket,--unless he asks me to keep them there and provides soft, fluffy pillows and reliable warmth...

2. He told me he's "talking" to another woman online, as well, and I expect she could be more satisfying for him. She could.

So, continue as usual or shut down other negotiations. (Certainly without telling him....)

I guess I have some time before I need to decide. I just don't want to go out with Mr. B if it sends the wrong signals to Mr. A.

Right back in ******* high school.

Excuse momentary insanity.

I'm not changing anything.

Changing from what to what?

Definitely on scary guy, as soon as you defined him as such I was like noooo but you figured that one out.

I think at this point you can just keep talking to whomever you want to talk to and seeing what happens. What's the worst that can happen, you make a new friend?

(I know, the worst that can happen is that guy A who you like gets freaked out that you're talking to guy B who you're lukewarm about, but I tend to think that freaked-ness for that reason doesn't reflect well on guy A anyway.)

Continue as usual. There's no reason to shut down other negotiations until you've closed the deal on this one. And he seems to feel the same way about you. Why else would he talk to other women online? Fair is fair. Just keep flirting with whoever enters your inbox.

Thanks so much. It helps to get feedback. I'm really a fish out of water.

Latest installment of Our Continuing Saga:

(He calls and emails every day (night).

(I'm so embarrassed to write this, but <screams>)

(I'm having to type brief sentences because I'm just numb)

He said that he had turned off on women after his second divorce (no alarms for me, because I'm not interested in marriage), and though he's had a couple of LTRs but they were "going through the motions" relationships to avoid being alone, and for sex. He said he just got off the phone with his best friend (in another state) and they talked for 45 minutes ("that's two hours in girl time" LOL) about me and how he feels since we've been talking. He said he feels twenty years younger--every time the phone rings, he hopes it's me <grinning like a mule eating briars, I am> and that his friend and wife had been really worried about him over the past few years--so he wanted to give them the good news.

He wants me to meet them.

She's a Eng prof at a flagship school in the south. The three of them all graduated from another flagship school down hyar.

The thing that's so startling for me is we have incredibly similar viewpoints about relationships. I set these truly ridiculous parameters about our progress (to keep emotionally safe / painfully honest) and he's like, "I can't believe it! I wouldn't have had the nerve to suggest that-- This is great!!"

People, either this man is in love with me, or he'll be feeding my parts in to a woodchipper about 11PM Wednesday night.

He asked me if I thought I could fall in love with him, and I said evenly, "Absolutely not."

He howled.

He gets me.

Forgive me for blathering. I don't see any end in sight.