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Mon 6 Mar, 2006 06:13 pm
Okay guys, I know I haven't posted in a while. I've been meaning to come back to this web site more, but my semester has been crazy.
Anyway, I have a relationship question. I just started seeing this new guy. And I set very clear boundaries with him that I don't want to have sex right away. The thing is, that's a lie. Of course I want to have sex. The thing is, I've never had a relationship that wasn't based on sex. And I want to try to see if this could be more than that. But I'm not only fighting his advances, I am fighting my own horemones too. And I think that I'm going to break before I've achieved what I want to in waiting. I mean, I know I'll have sex with him eventually, assuming the relationship lasts. So in ways, I feel like I'm prolonging the inevitable.
My question is, Is it worth it to wait? I don't know if I'm looking for love. But I'm looking for more than what I've had. Okay, I think I've already answered my own question. It is worth it to wait. New question...HOW!!!! I'm trying to avoid alone situations. But sometimes I just want to be alone with him. Ahhhhhhh! I've gotta start searching for some good toys (pardon my candor), because this one is going to be difficult!
I have 2 questions: How many days/months have you been
with him? How long do you want to wait?
not long enough. I've only been seeing him for a week or so. I don't mean that I want to have sex with him tomorrow or anything. But the last couple guys I dated, we had sex within the first month. And I guess what I mean by waiting is longer than a month. He's pretty attractive, though. I must sound so immature. But this is a genuine struggle.
Ask yourself this:
In 50 years from now, is it going to make any difference if you waited 2 weeks or two months?
Nope!
If it's going to last, it won't make any difference if you have sex a bit earlier, or a bit later.
I agree with Chumly here, daniellejean.
One week, two weeks, what difference does it make?
You're bringing your bad experiences into a new relationship,
which is not fair to the new guy or you for that matter.
Go for it, and enjoy it!
Well... I wouldn't say, hell, go for it and enjoy it!
Think it over. Be sure there isn't another reason your waiting. Give it some serious thought.
Then go for it.
If he genuinely likes you he will be happy to wait.Itl give you a chance to see how well you get on without sex as an issue and you can see if the relationship will last.
If you decide he is a prat just give in, have loads of sex til you get him out of your system then say goodbye.
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