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Juveniles charged with violent crimes should tried as adults

 
 
Montana
 
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Reply Sun 5 Mar, 2006 05:22 pm
Sorry about all the typo's.
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dlowan
 
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Reply Sun 5 Mar, 2006 09:21 pm
Actually Montana, I have a very good idea of what you are talking about, since working with bullied kids and bullies was part of my bread and butter for 17 years.

What I do not understand is what you think trying and sentencing kids as adults is going to do about such behaviour?

What are you thinking the adult system has to offer that is different?


Schools are perfectly able to work on stopping bullying without recourse to adult prisons, for instance, and I have worked very hard over the years in forcing them to take the problem seriously.


Can you clarify what exactly you are seeing the adult system doing that is not done in the juvenile system?
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Montana
 
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Reply Sun 5 Mar, 2006 09:44 pm
Dlowan
I think kids need to take responsability for their actions, just like adults do.
I mentioned the abuse both my son and I took from visous kids and they weren't even arrested. An adult would have been arrested and charged with assault and battery, so what kind of messege does that send the kids?
It tells them that they can get away with whatever they want simply because they are kids.
You say that the schools are perfectly able to work on stopping bullying, so why aren't they?
There needs to be laws inforced outside the schools as well. If a kid beats up another kid, they should be arrested and charged with assault and battery, just like adults are.
I don't think kids should be put in adult prisons, but what's wrong with kid prison.
As a victim of many years, I don't carry any sympathy for any bully! Sorry!
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Montana
 
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Reply Sun 5 Mar, 2006 10:26 pm
Dlowan
I know you've been working with these kids for a lot of years, which is why you're so passionate about this, but were you ever a victim yourself? If you were ever attacked by anyone in your life, even just once, you know the fear, so imagine being attacked on a daily basis and living with this fear 24/7 for years.
Imagine wanting to take your own life just so you can escape the torture.
Imagine going to every adult you could think of begging them to help you and they do nothing.
I can't even begin to explain the hell I was forced to live because the schools and the law refused to do one single thing to even try and protect me.
The bullies are even worse today then they were back then and every single day there are more and more kids taking their own lives because they feel it's their only way out.
Kids are forced to go to school, so school becomes a prison for the victims of bullies. I know because when I think of school, I think of prison.
No one should be force to live with abuse from anyone and that includes kids.
Yeah, I want the bullies locked up, but they need to have a place for them where they are equipped to deal with them.
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dlowan
 
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Reply Mon 6 Mar, 2006 12:59 am
Aargh!

I agree with you about bullies taking responsibility.

Nobody is debating that.


What I am trying to get at is why you see the adult system being able to achieve that, while a juvenile system cannot.

You are fighting a shadow when you make assumptions about what I believe and advocate.

My point is that such responsibility can be taken in an appropriately geared juvenile system, without exposing juveniles to the adult system.

You appear to equate a juvenile system with nothing being done to address violent behaviour.

If this is so in the systems you have experience of, then I think that is a fault with the juvenile system which needs correction, not an argument to deal with kids as though they are adults. They are not. This does not mean that they cannot have consequences for their actions, nor that they should not be asked to take responsibility for them, as appropriate for their developmental level.

But it seems this is not a topic that is worth continuing to try to discuss with you, because of your reactions, and the assumptions you are making, quite wrongly, about what I am discussing, and it seems to be causing nothing but distress and anger for you, so I am giving up.

And of course I have been attacked, Montana.


For example, I have been lucky enough to fight off rapists, once a gang of them, on several occasions.
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flushd
 
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Reply Mon 6 Mar, 2006 02:07 am
To me, this is really simply.

Juvies should not be tried and punished as adults, because they are not adults!
Seriously. As dlowan pointed out, these kids have not fully developed yet.

Soceity can not have it both ways: Not recognizing them as adults, but expecting them to live up to adult standards. It's silly, it makes no sense, and it further confuses a kid as to what is expected of them as a person in their soceity.

Bullies, kids who commit violent crimes, child murderers: they do need to be dealt with appropriately.

To try them as adults is a last ditch effort of a system that has failed. Further examination, and action, is needed to repair/change the system where things have gone wrong. I see no indication that throwing kids into an adult system actually makes things right or deals with things effectively. It does not cut down on the amount of violent crime, it does not put responsibility where it needs to be, and it is just a way of further throwing kids under the carpet.

I guess we're all passionate about this.
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OCCOM BILL
 
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Reply Mon 6 Mar, 2006 03:21 am
Passionate indeed. The difference Montana is trying to express is the fact that punishments for bad kids are laughable to bad kids. She's correct. I doubt she gives a rat's ass whether or not the bad kids go to adult prisons; she just wants them to be dealt with at least as effectively as adults. Get it?

(((((Montana))))) wrote:
No one should be force to live with abuse from anyone and that includes kids.
This should read: No one should be forced to live with abuse from anyone and this especially means kids.

Is there something more important than protecting children from violence? What?

I could almost care less whether or not a 15 year old brutal rapist's frontal lobes are fully developed. Having demonstrated a lack of human decency; he needs to be removed from society. I don't know about Australia but here in the States I'd wager Dlowan's statistic that 80% of violent child offenders don't re-offend is inverted. In Wisconsin; when kids finish there time in "Gladiator School" (their proud nick name for Juvenile jail), they wear it like a patch on their sleeve. I believe I once read that some 93% will eventually find themselves in adult court anyway. In our screwed up system when (if) they do re-offend; the prosecution is not allowed to bring up their juvenile record because they are sealed at 18. As if a juvenile record wouldn't help a jury assess the likelihood of guilt… or a judge assess the true extent of the threat of future crime. Idiocy.

If Occom Bill were King; the entire school system would be changed drastically. Kids would learn at their own pace from books, and teachers would be available to answer questions. Kids would be separated, not by aptitude, but rather by attitude. Let the kids that want to learn share space and the disruptive kids be separated completely. It is obscene that kids should have to worry more about how they may fair on the bus than on their next test. The final separation should be for the violent kids. Straight to a military school if it were up to me; where they'll do exercise at 0-500 and have their days dictated to them, practically from start to finish, until they can prove they can follow orders. Only then is it worth the risk of exposing decent children to them.

Tales like Montana's and her son's are horror stories that should NEVER be allowed to occur. I can't for the life of me understand how someone rationalizes taking more compassion for the bully than his victims. Crime is crime and needs to be addressed at every stage of development. Violent children grow up to be violent adults.

Now, that being said, I do take issue with the caning nonsense. Somebody takes a crack at my kid, they'd better have a bodyguard. A child out of control is a child that needs to be brought under control, not beaten. This type of idiocy only reinforces the idea that violence is a good way to get people to do what you want. The only exception I make in that thinking is in confronting a bully in action. I'll get my knuckles bloody any day of the week in protection of the weak. The boys in blue aren't always readily available.

Lastly; I'll bite on Dlowan's capital punishment of minors question: You bet. Example: a 13 year old boy kidnaps, rapes and kills a 13 year old girl. This bastard has demonstrated an inhuman (IMO) capacity for violence that should never be allowed to happen again. I don't much care whether his violent nature is genetic or learned. I believe people either have the capacity to commit such atrocity or they do not. Those who do should be humanely exterminated expediently. I further don't care if he's mentally impaired. He has already proven to be a clear and present danger to society and I see no justification to risk recidivism. It has nothing to do with revenge, Dlowan. It has everything to do with ridding the world of violent A-holes who lack respect for humanity, for the betterment of us all.
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flushd
 
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Reply Mon 6 Mar, 2006 04:02 am
OCCOM BILL wrote:
Passionate indeed. The difference Montana is trying to express is the fact that punishments for bad kids are laughable to bad kids. She's correct. I doubt she gives a rat's ass whether or not the bad kids go to adult prisons; she just wants them to be dealt with at least as effectively as adults. Get it?

Of course it's laughable to 'bad' kids! The adults have allowed them to get away with it. How does letting it get that bad, and them throwing them in jail or executing them solve the problem?

The message is: We don't care how/why you are acting horribly, we'll put up with it until you screw up bad enough, and then it's off with your head, we want you out of sight and mind. You aren't 'decent'.

Most violent kids and child bullies show a progression of bad behavior. Why aren't people there to stop it? Why doesn't anyone care enough to step up to the plate?

There seems to me to be a big lack of adult responsibility - from parents, to those in the schools, to those all along the line. People want the courts to deal with what they as responsible adults should be dealing with themselves.

I see it as a problem that someone 'doesn't give a rat's ass whether or not the bad kids go to adult prison'.

It is natural that once someone has been victimized, they are not going to rational, nor necessarily care what happens to the person who inflicted damage. But someone has to look at it from the bigger picture. The court should be concerned with more than just revenge.

(((((Montana))))) wrote:
No one should be force to live with abuse from anyone and that includes kids.
This should read: No one should be forced to live with abuse from anyone and this especially means kids.

Is there something more important than protecting children from violence? What?

It seems you implying that jailing and trying kids as adults is the only way to protect children from violence. That those who disagree with that approach don't want to protect kids - and that simply isn't true.
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I could almost care less whether or not a 15 year old brutal rapist's frontal lobes are fully developed.Having demonstrated a lack of human decency; he needs to be removed from society.

I agree that a rapist does need to be removed from soceity. But to where?
........
I don't know about Australia but here in the States I'd wager Dlowan's statistic that 80% of violent child offenders don't re-offend is inverted. In Wisconsin; when kids finish there time in "Gladiator School" (their proud nick name for Juvenile jail), they wear it like a patch on their sleeve. I believe I once read that some 93% will eventually find themselves in adult court anyway. In our screwed up system when (if) they do re-offend; the prosecution is not allowed to bring up their juvenile record because they are sealed at 18. As if a juvenile record wouldn't help a jury assess the likelihood of guilt… or a judge assess the true extent of the threat of future crime. Idiocy.

I agree that the system is f-uped.
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Tales like Montana's and her son's are horror stories that should NEVER be allowed to occur. I can't for the life of me understand how someone rationalizes taking more compassion for the bully than his victims. Crime is crime and needs to be addressed at every stage of development. Violent children grow up to be violent adults.

Again - you imply that not agreeing with trying kids as adults equals having more compassion for the bully than the victims. That simply ain't so.

You say "Crime is crime and needs to be addressed at every stage of development".
Well, in Montana's case, the bullying was NOT being addressed when it should have been by those who could stop it.

....

Just as a thought:
Have you ever spent time with someone's spoiled brat of a kid? Y'know the ones. Momma lets them get away with everything, they show no respect, and even if Momma is around and the kid pulls your hair, when you tell the child to stop, the Momma looks at you "How dare you speak to my child like that?".
Well, who in that situation has the brain power and clout to change the situation?
Do you blame the kid and expect him "to just know better?"
I don't. It's all the kid knows. Given a parent who gave a flying f*ck about their kid enough to put the child's needs above their own, that would not happen.
The parent is the f*up. The parent is the one who needs to change in order for things to get better, or another adult with equal power in the child's life.
The child simply can not make that decision for themself, because they do not have the resources to do so!
Kids need adults and are dependent on adults That's Why we Call them Kids!!

You probably aren't even reading anymore at this point, but I get soo upset hearing people 'not giving a damn about bullies' who are CHILDREN.

If you cut out the rare percentage of child bullies who are just freaks, just naturally 'bad'.....the rest are just kids who got a crap deal, who have had crap for adult attention and learning.

So I don't care what you think; because I do have compassion for child bullies. They are powerless little people reaching out to take power in the only way they can. They deserve a shot at life too. They aren't 'scrapped' in my books. They can still learn.
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herberts
 
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Reply Mon 6 Mar, 2006 04:53 am
Agreed with everything you've said, OB... except...

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Now, that being said, I do take issue with the caning nonsense. Somebody takes a crack at my kid, they'd better have a bodyguard. A child out of control is a child that needs to be brought under control, not beaten. This type of idiocy only reinforces the idea that violence is a good way to get people to do what you want.


From age 10 to 17 I lived in an institution where corporal punishment was the order of the day - and it was not so much the caning itself but the threat of the caning which had a most wondrous effect on we boys.

Hooliganism, bullying, unkempt dress, abusive and smart-arse attitudes and posture, anti-social delinquency, disrespectful behaviour -- all of these were simply not an option, and as we advanced in age the canings grew less and less frequent until finally they were no longer needed.

And guess what - we didn't end up resentful of authority - or in need of psychiatric treatment for 'childhood trauma' - or before the bench for cruelty to animals or wife-beating.

And I'll tell you something for free Bill, if your boy was in my care for whatever reason and he gave me some cheek - I'd spank his arse a nice shade of pink to let him know it's not just daddy he needs to respect.
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Bi-Polar Bear
 
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Reply Mon 6 Mar, 2006 07:40 am
first off I gotta say this herberts is one tough sumbitch... I'm scared of you guy.....

I agree that children should be tried as adults unless it's one of my children and then their age and inexperience need to be taken into account....
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OCCOM BILL
 
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Reply Mon 6 Mar, 2006 08:36 am
flushd wrote:
Most violent kids and child bullies show a progression of bad behavior. Why aren't people there to stop it? Why doesn't anyone care enough to step up to the plate?
Good question for a philosophical debate... but of what use are they in reality? You can't regulate away bad parenting so there's little you or I can do about that. You need a license to fish, but any damn fool can have a child.

As I've already said, were I King; violent kids would be moved to a Military type school where they'd learn discipline before being allowed back in with the disruptive kids where they'd again have to prove themselves to be allowed back in with the kids who want to learn. This rewards the kids who want to learn and do behave while keeping them safe from the bad ones. Where's your beef with that? This puts the priorities of Protect the innocent and correct the guilty in the appropriate order, no?

As to where do you put the rapist? Again, were I King, "the chair" seems like an appropriate solution to me. At that point, IMO, it's already too late for correction. I believe there are those who are capable or such atrocity and those who are not. Every time they capture a girl's killer anymore, it seems it's always some monster that's already been labeled a sexual predator. I'd rather see the herd thinned by removing the predator than his prey.

I wholeheartedly agree with you that it's a shame bad parents tend to result in bad kids (sometimes through no fault of their own)... though that's not always the case. Sometimes the kids are just fine and sometimes the "bad kid's" parents are just fine. I appreciate your concern for bullies as victims themselves, but I cannot reconcile further victimization for their sake. Military school's brand of discipline couldn't hurt them, could it? In the more serious cases: I believe a person who can commit a crime like rape, child molestation or unjustifiable murder has demonstrated a lack of humanity that neither you nor I could ever reach. I think its best to remove them completely to eradicate the cancer they represent and send a very clear message to any and all that may be "on the fence." One might think this type of harsh reality might just light a fire under some "bad parents" as well.

Yeah, he's a real peach ain't he Bear? Rolling Eyes
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Montana
 
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Reply Mon 6 Mar, 2006 04:57 pm
dlowan wrote:
Aargh!

I agree with you about bullies taking responsibility.

Nobody is debating that.


What I am trying to get at is why you see the adult system being able to achieve that, while a juvenile system cannot.

You are fighting a shadow when you make assumptions about what I believe and advocate.

My point is that such responsibility can be taken in an appropriately geared juvenile system, without exposing juveniles to the adult system.

You appear to equate a juvenile system with nothing being done to address violent behaviour.

If this is so in the systems you have experience of, then I think that is a fault with the juvenile system which needs correction, not an argument to deal with kids as though they are adults. They are not. This does not mean that they cannot have consequences for their actions, nor that they should not be asked to take responsibility for them, as appropriate for their developmental level.

But it seems this is not a topic that is worth continuing to try to discuss with you, because of your reactions, and the assumptions you are making, quite wrongly, about what I am discussing, and it seems to be causing nothing but distress and anger for you, so I am giving up.

And of course I have been attacked, Montana.


For example, I have been lucky enough to fight off rapists, once a gang of them, on several occasions.



I'm sorry, Deb! I completely misunderstood your point. If they can do something with the violent kids in the juvenile system, then I'm all for it.
Obviously, this is a very strong subject for me and I'd just like to see a bit of justice for all the victims who are abused by these thugs on a daily basis.

Again, I'm sorry for misunderstanding.
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herberts
 
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Reply Mon 6 Mar, 2006 05:43 pm
Montana - you have my deepest sympathies for what you went through at school, and it's my belief that the culture of do-nothing tolerance and indulgence towards your persecutors by the authorities who had presided over your situation were all from the same school of thought in which it is taught that forebearance and indulgence of ones persecutors is the best way to placate their need to be cruel to you.

O vain delusion.

You were not so much the victim of aberrant youthful sadistic mentalities as you were the victim of social policies formulated and made sacrosanct by legions of trendy beard-stroking academics and politicians who advocate the naive philosophy that all you need do to rid society of its delinquent malcontents is to sit in majestic pose like a Mahatma Gandhi and present as big and passive a target as possible.

There was no bullying amongst the boys where I lived from age 10 to 17. None whatsoever. The canings hurt like hell and it kept even the most obstreperous amongst us at least half-way civilised and on our best behaviour.

Incidentally, Montana, with some of your attitudes of compassion and forgiveness towards your former persecutors I seem to detect a few fleeting shadows here and there of 'Stockholm syndrome'. Don't be alarmed - it's nothing to worry about - and there's nothing you need do about it.
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Montana
 
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Reply Mon 6 Mar, 2006 05:55 pm
OCCOM BILL wrote:
Passionate indeed. The difference Montana is trying to express is the fact that punishments for bad kids are laughable to bad kids. She's correct. I doubt she gives a rat's ass whether or not the bad kids go to adult prisons; she just wants them to be dealt with at least as effectively as adults. Get it?

(((((Montana))))) wrote:
No one should be force to live with abuse from anyone and that includes kids.
This should read: No one should be forced to live with abuse from anyone and this especially means kids.

Is there something more important than protecting children from violence? What?

I could almost care less whether or not a 15 year old brutal rapist's frontal lobes are fully developed. Having demonstrated a lack of human decency; he needs to be removed from society. I don't know about Australia but here in the States I'd wager Dlowan's statistic that 80% of violent child offenders don't re-offend is inverted. In Wisconsin; when kids finish there time in "Gladiator School" (their proud nick name for Juvenile jail), they wear it like a patch on their sleeve. I believe I once read that some 93% will eventually find themselves in adult court anyway. In our screwed up system when (if) they do re-offend; the prosecution is not allowed to bring up their juvenile record because they are sealed at 18. As if a juvenile record wouldn't help a jury assess the likelihood of guilt… or a judge assess the true extent of the threat of future crime. Idiocy.

If Occom Bill were King; the entire school system would be changed drastically. Kids would learn at their own pace from books, and teachers would be available to answer questions. Kids would be separated, not by aptitude, but rather by attitude. Let the kids that want to learn share space and the disruptive kids be separated completely. It is obscene that kids should have to worry more about how they may fair on the bus than on their next test. The final separation should be for the violent kids. Straight to a military school if it were up to me; where they'll do exercise at 0-500 and have their days dictated to them, practically from start to finish, until they can prove they can follow orders. Only then is it worth the risk of exposing decent children to them.

Tales like Montana's and her son's are horror stories that should NEVER be allowed to occur. I can't for the life of me understand how someone rationalizes taking more compassion for the bully than his victims. Crime is crime and needs to be addressed at every stage of development. Violent children grow up to be violent adults.

Now, that being said, I do take issue with the caning nonsense. Somebody takes a crack at my kid, they'd better have a bodyguard. A child out of control is a child that needs to be brought under control, not beaten. This type of idiocy only reinforces the idea that violence is a good way to get people to do what you want. The only exception I make in that thinking is in confronting a bully in action. I'll get my knuckles bloody any day of the week in protection of the weak. The boys in blue aren't always readily available.

Lastly; I'll bite on Dlowan's capital punishment of minors question: You bet. Example: a 13 year old boy kidnaps, rapes and kills a 13 year old girl. This bastard has demonstrated an inhuman (IMO) capacity for violence that should never be allowed to happen again. I don't much care whether his violent nature is genetic or learned. I believe people either have the capacity to commit such atrocity or they do not. Those who do should be humanely exterminated expediently. I further don't care if he's mentally impaired. He has already proven to be a clear and present danger to society and I see no justification to risk recidivism. It has nothing to do with revenge, Dlowan. It has everything to do with ridding the world of violent A-holes who lack respect for humanity, for the betterment of us all.


Thank you, Bill! I know I'm yelling very loud on this issue and it's only because I'm still so angry that after all these years, the bullies are worse now than they ever were and they need to be stopped.
Those bullies destroyed my childhood and cost me several thousand dollars in school supplies for me to home school my son, along with 5 years of lost wages since I had to stay home to teach my son.
The punk that causaed me to remove my son from school is scared **** of me today, now that he's an adult, but what the hell good does that do me.
Yeah, I saw the bastard several times last year in my work parking lot and I had more than a few choice words to say to him.
All the fuc@er could say was "I'm sorry"! "Sorry" I said "sorry isn't going to put all that money back in my pockets and sorry isn't going to give my son his high school diploma and I stringly suggest you keep a distance from me because now that you're all grown up, I won't hesitate to kick you sorry ass!"
This rat bastard uprooted our lives and he's free as a bird doing whatever the hell he wants.
Did I mention that the police got involved in that situation and they even came to my home to search it for guns. My son was even charged and we had to go to court, where the case was dismissed.
We are related to most everyone in this area and I'm sure people are still talking about it.
Home schooling my son was one of the hardest things I've ever had to do, but I had to do it, so this abuser wouldn't get my son thrown in jail.
You're right in saying that I could care less where they put these abusive monsters as long as they are away from us non abusive people, but I do agree that there wouldn't be much chance of these bullies being reformed in adult prison, so yes they need to create some place for these kids to go where the violent issues can be addressed.
This way, at least they learn how to deal with whatever issues they have.
You're also right in saying that I could care less if their brains are fully developped yet because I know these kids know exactly what they're doing.
If the lack of a fully developped brain is a cause of violence in kids, then why aren't all kids violent?
I don't buy into that at all. Like adults, there are adults who are violent and adults who are not, just like kids.
I've also see these abusive kids grow into abusive adults and so it goes.
My sons father was an abuser as a child and he was an abuser until the day he died (Aug). This man had a long wrap sheet of domestic abuse, assault and battery, assault with a dangerous weapon, and destruction of property and these are just the things he got caught for. This man never spent even one day behind bars for his violent crimes. Go figure.
The legal system doesn't make any sense to me at all. They are locking up drug users, dealers, prostitutes and Martha Stewart, yet they are constantly setting free repeat violent offenders. <scratches head>


I thank you with all my heart for your complete understanding, Bill :-)

((((Bill))))
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Montana
 
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Reply Mon 6 Mar, 2006 06:02 pm
Flushed
If the bullies are powerless little people, what would you call their victims?
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Montana
 
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Reply Mon 6 Mar, 2006 06:06 pm
herberts wrote:


From age 10 to 17 I lived in an institution where corporal punishment was the order of the day - and it was not so much the caning itself but the threat of the caning which had a most wondrous effect on we boys.

Hooliganism, bullying, unkempt dress, abusive and smart-arse attitudes and posture, anti-social delinquency, disrespectful behaviour -- all of these were simply not an option, and as we advanced in age the canings grew less and less frequent until finally they were no longer needed.

And guess what - we didn't end up resentful of authority - or in need of psychiatric treatment for 'childhood trauma' - or before the bench for cruelty to animals or wife-beating.


This sounds exactly what I had in mind :-)
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Montana
 
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Reply Mon 6 Mar, 2006 06:11 pm
herberts wrote:
Montana - you have my deepest sympathies for what you went through at school, and it's my belief that the culture of do-nothing tolerance and indulgence towards your persecutors by the authorities who had presided over your situation were all from the same school of thought in which it is taught that forebearance and indulgence of ones persecutors is the best way to placate their need to be cruel to you.

O vain delusion.

You were not so much the victim of aberrant youthful sadistic mentalities as you were the victim of social policies formulated and made sacrosanct by legions of trendy beard-stroking academics and politicians who advocate the naive philosophy that all you need do to rid society of its delinquent malcontents is to sit in majestic pose like a Mahatma Gandhi and present as big and passive a target as possible.

There was no bullying amongst the boys where I lived from age 10 to 17. None whatsoever. The canings hurt like hell and it kept even the most obstreperous amongst us at least half-way civilised and on our best behaviour.

Incidentally, Montana, with some of your attitudes of compassion and forgiveness towards your former persecutors I seem to detect a few fleeting shadows here and there of 'Stockholm syndrome'. Don't be alarmed - it's nothing to worry about - and there's nothing you need do about it.


Thank you Herberts.

What is Stockholm syndrome?

I'm not sure about the forgiveness part, though. I think I'll always be angry about what we were put through.
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herberts
 
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Reply Mon 6 Mar, 2006 06:20 pm
Herbert-without-an-'s'....
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... the threat of caning which had a most wondrous effect upon we boys.


Montana...
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This sounds exactly what I had in mind Smile


Occom Bill...
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Now, that being said, I do take issue with the caning nonsense.


Montana...
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I thank you with all my heart for your complete understanding, Bill Smile


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Montana
 
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Reply Mon 6 Mar, 2006 06:28 pm
OCCOM BILL wrote:
flushd wrote:
Most violent kids and child bullies show a progression of bad behavior. Why aren't people there to stop it? Why doesn't anyone care enough to step up to the plate?
Good question for a philosophical debate... but of what use are they in reality? You can't regulate away bad parenting so there's little you or I can do about that. You need a license to fish, but any damn fool can have a child.

As I've already said, were I King; violent kids would be moved to a Military type school where they'd learn discipline before being allowed back in with the disruptive kids where they'd again have to prove themselves to be allowed back in with the kids who want to learn. This rewards the kids who want to learn and do behave while keeping them safe from the bad ones. Where's your beef with that? This puts the priorities of Protect the innocent and correct the guilty in the appropriate order, no?

As to where do you put the rapist? Again, were I King, "the chair" seems like an appropriate solution to me. At that point, IMO, it's already too late for correction. I believe there are those who are capable or such atrocity and those who are not. Every time they capture a girl's killer anymore, it seems it's always some monster that's already been labeled a sexual predator. I'd rather see the herd thinned by removing the predator than his prey.

I wholeheartedly agree with you that it's a shame bad parents tend to result in bad kids (sometimes through no fault of their own)... though that's not always the case. Sometimes the kids are just fine and sometimes the "bad kid's" parents are just fine. I appreciate your concern for bullies as victims themselves, but I cannot reconcile further victimization for their sake. Military school's brand of discipline couldn't hurt them, could it? In the more serious cases: I believe a person who can commit a crime like rape, child molestation or unjustifiable murder has demonstrated a lack of humanity that neither you nor I could ever reach. I think its best to remove them completely to eradicate the cancer they represent and send a very clear message to any and all that may be "on the fence." One might think this type of harsh reality might just light a fire under some "bad parents" as well.

Yeah, he's a real peach ain't he Bear? Rolling Eyes


I agree.

I know there are bad parents out there, but not all violent kids come from bad parents. I've met countless of violent kids who came from very good homes. They were never abused themselve and what not.
A lot of these kids learn this behavior in SCHOOL and I wish more people would see that the biggest problem with bullies all starts right in the schools.
These future bullies go to school and are pressured by other bullies to join them. The bullies like to be surrounded by as many followers as they can because we all know how cowarly they are when they stand alone.
Anyway, the kids bully in school (when they wouldn't get away with it at home) because the schools are allowing it.
They are ignoring the cries of the victims and they go about their business.
I keep trying to tell people that the parents can't take responsablity for what the schools are not doing.
If the parent is the parent of the victim, should we blame them too for sending their child to school where they will be terrorized on a daily basis?
The parents are not the problem!

All that babbling wasn't for you, Bill. I just kept on going, lol.
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Herbert-without-an-'s'....
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... the threat of caning which had a most wondrous effect upon we boys.


Montana...
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This sounds exactly what I had in mind Smile


Occom Bill...
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Now, that being said, I do take issue with the caning nonsense.


Montana...
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I thank you with all my heart for your complete understanding, Bill Smile


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What are you trying to say, herbert?

You keep losing me Laughing
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