Money is perhaps the largest area of argument between married couples. Children are second, or maybe money is second, but I think you get the idea. Money is a big, big deal.
I find this to be an interesting phrase from you:
Quote:I will shop in a better place if my bank balance rises to 200k.
I'm going out on a limb here and I'm gonna assume that you don't have a balance anywhere near this. So in some ways, if you are saying this, you may have set up this situation, e. g. telling your wife you won't go nuts until you hit a particular balance, but then going nuts anyway, even before you hit that balance. And, to top it all off, it's a fairly unattainable balance for most. Hence it sets up both of you into a conflict situation.
A convertible, actually, I have to say, I come down a lot closer to your wife's side of things than yours. To spend more for better quality is one thing, and if she is going for super-duper cheap items that wear out anyway, it is no bargain and she's not helping matters. An extra few bucks on clothes can make a real difference in fit, ease of care and durability. The $3 tee shirt bin is generally going to be garbage -- but at the same time, spending $30 on a cotton tee shirt is silly.
As for the convertible, cars depreciate significantly in value as you drive them off the showroom floor, just after you've handed the sales guy your check. And, let's be honest here -- a convertible is a man's toy. It has little for her, when you really get down to brass tacks. She might enjoy it, a bit, but it will do neither of you any good when buying groceries, driving friends around (the back seats in those are notoriously tiny) or doing pretty much anything. Plus gas mileage tends to stink and gas is through the roof these days. Oh, and insuring a sports-type vehicle or an easily-stolen vehicle is expensive, particularly for a young male being the primary driver.
Car payments now also mean that they will only do your credit rating good if you pay them off on time. If you don't, then you can find yourself with a lousy credit rating. You don't say what your living situation is, but if you do not yet own a home or condo, you really should think long and hard about expenses. Real estate is a major investment, but it's a good one. Before we bought our house, we gave up, let's see, about $60,000 in rent, and this was over 10 years ago. That money is never, ever coming back, and it would be awfully nice if we could have had it for mortgage payments or repairs or the like.
All of that having been said, enjoyment should be budgeted for, too. Everyone needs a vacation. The problem, I see it, is when you (or anyone else, I'm not picking on you in particular, please don't read this that way) overspend and take out a loan for fun stuff. Or it racks up credit card debt. And then you turn around and realize that you're paying interest on a loan for a car that you traded in long ago, or on a vacation that happened ages ago and wasn't that memorable.
This does not sound like a question about compromise. It sounds a lot more like a question about whose money obsession is better. Neither is. But what marriage is about is doing your best to see another's side of things. Why is she pinching pennies like this? Did she come out of awful poverty? Is she afraid you'll lose your job? Are her fears justified? And you, why do you really want the toy (my uncle had one, he called it the "chippie chaser")? Is it to look like a big man? To feel luxury? I have a car with a sun roof and I've had one with a sun roof since 1998. I like them and don't want to have a car without one. But it's also in a budget vehicle. A true convertible isn't sold these days unless it's in some sort of an ocean liner of a car. So is it the car you want, or just the roof? You may be able to bend if it's just the roof you want (trust me, a sun roof is perfectly fine and a lot less likely to leak than a true ragtop).
What's your motivation? What's hers? Those are the questions you should be asking.