I fully admit, I"m NOT an expert... but..
Momma, that kinda sounds like you have some sort of metal allergy or something--maybe using pure, ah, silver, or gold, or something like that would help. ( I know my ears bleed constantly when I got them pierced, once upon a time. ... it wasn't until years later that soemone told my that I was probably non tollerantto 'fake' metals'... that and I don't think I was cleaning them right,,, no one told me how!!) ... and you're never too old for that sorta thing, unless you really belive you are
Kurty, why can't they take it out until it heals?
well.. if you'rerejecting it, from w hat I understand is if you let it heal up, and get yourself pierced again--but deeper, it should hold.
But anyway.. gla dyou've gotten that sorted out. and I'd tell you not t o go back to that plae you got it done at, but they've already closed, lol. Good luck