My boyfriend looks at porn almost every day

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smtowngal--

Welcome to.

From your brief discription, I think you two have a communication problem as well as a porn problem.

Porn, privacy and hostile unilateral action are all situations that need a great deal of talking out.

Noddy has got it.

You need to talk to your boyfriend. You need to establish agreed-upon boundries. If porn is something you can't abide, and is something he won't go without, then you most likely are at an empasse and should consider splitting up.

Best luck to you. If all else fails, pre-maritual councilling may be your best bet.

Hi, welcome to this forum.

Personally speaking, I can accept my bf do that and I don't think Porn can annoy the relationship too much, unless he has addition about it.

Maybe you can try to have a frank talk about this with'm.

BTW, IMO, you are luckier than those women who found lots of lies when snooping on their bfs' computers ....

Re: My boyfriend looks at porn almost every day


This is disturbing.

What is this "almost" every day? I'd be worried. If he is not looking every single day, he may be abnormal.

Watch this one. He should be looking every day!

Well, I think that clairden has a good point...you could have found much much worse on his computer, but in my opinion, you'd have deserved it because snooping is just as dishonest as hiding something from your partner.

How is this affecting your sex life? You've stopped having sex? He masturbates more than he has sex with you? He asks you to act out scenes or fantasies he may have seen in porn? You need to be more specific on what your issue is.

I don't know if he is "addicted" or if he just likes it. Porn is not the reason for so many of these realtionship problems. It's just the trigger that sets off distrust, lying and suspicion. Those then lead to arguments, accusations and hurt feelings.

You have to sit down and talk about this. If he watched porn before you, you can't expect him to stop now. It's like watching football. If he watched football every Sunday and Monday nights before you, then he should be able to watch it every Sunday and Monday now.

In healthy relationships, each partner compromises. Maybe now, you ask him to reduce the amount of porn he watches and if he loves you and cares for you, he will try to do that. But you can't demand that he stop all together. You can ask but he shouldn't be made to comply to your idea of what is right and what is wrong. Again, many times, the other person has no idea that they are hurting their partner.

Bottom line bella, she's got a problem with it, he doesn't. This needs to be worked out between them and a compromise reached else they are effectively quits.

this is a good point , how is your sex life .

I have found porn good for my relationship , yes you read right , porn is good in my marriage , we try moves from the clips , brings a bit of excitement to sex . I got 1 movie and its actually given me an extra 20 minutes in performance as it explains a few different methods and the wife tells me it was the best internet plan we got ... lol .

I also dont know if your totally anti porn but i can assure you he is downloading porn to live out his own fantasies , use this to your advantge in telling him , " can we watch some together to get some ideas on what we can do when we have sex next " , you can make a game out of it and swing his addiction your way , by showing him your in for a few new ideas will get him off the computer more often .

Just my opinion and may not be rght but i dont know how often hes giving it to you so cant comment further .

his porn is affecting our sex life. When i get home he's not in the mood because he has already gotten himself off. I can understand once in a while, but i feel like he likes the porn more than me. i have told him how I feel but it hasn't made a diffrence. When we do have sex it is good but now i think of the porn when we are together in bed. I know he has cut back but it still hurts to be rejected. I dont know how to help him understand where i'm coming from. I would never tell him not to look at it but I don't like how it's affecting our sex life.

Kick his perverted ass!!!! WOOOO!!!!

Re: My boyfriend looks at porn almost every day


I've seen this Topic before under a different ID.

Anon

I'm not kidding. Here's how you do it.

Act like you wanna try something real kinky and handcuff him to the bed. Then, grab the bamboo pole you purchased earlier that day and smack him across his bare chest with it. Rinse, repeat.

He'll never look at porn again. At least until the welts go away...

I like the cut of your jib, Crazy.

I don't know if I would focus the whipping on his chest though....that is too nice. ....

Take him to the power exchange and put him in stocks and leave him there.

Chest???

Whip his ass and finish him off with your strap-on. Your XL one.

Hehehe...I like the way you think...

Now, realizing how much that would hurt, I'm filing a restraining order against everyone named Roxanne.