Do husband's porno likes reflect on what he thinks about me?

Sounds like maybe reading too much into it -- it could be that the fact that they're different from you is the point, that he likes his eye candy to have variety.

What he likes in eye candy doesn't necessarily translate to what he wants in real life, at all.

Have you talked to him about it?

sozobe wrote:

Sounds like maybe reading too much into it -- it could be that the fact that they're different from you is the point, that he likes his eye candy to have variety.

What he likes in eye candy doesn't necessarily translate to what he wants in real life, at all.

Have you talked to him about it?

No i cant talk to him about it because i dont want him to know i was snooping he will be furious. I suppose you are right about the eye candy thing as far as the other thing goes but how can that 54 year old woman be eye candy? She looked terrible and its the kind of picture that anyone especially a 20 year old guy would be horrified to look at.

my husband looks a porn too and instead we do not have very much sex....he looks at a variety of sites from what I have seen....from milfs to tweens either of which I am not.....i know how you feel.

I had to infultrate his secret email account and ive witnessed everything including an email he wrote to one of these women.

Butterfly66 wrote:

I had to infultrate his secret email account and ive witnessed everything including an email he wrote to one of these women.

Whoa. You HAD to infiltrate his secret email account?
Did someone force a gun to your head and make you?

Y'know what I've noticed from reading a lot of threads similiar to yours, and also from listening to friends and other people who are concerned about their spouses' porn habits........

There always seems to be deeper problems other than the porn.

I think that is the case here. You don't trust him - possibly for good reason but it is hard to actually tell - and you are rationalizing reasons to invade his privacy.

You can now either work on your marriage or leave. I wish you luck and happiness in whatever you choose.

I dont trust him at all because i had caught him talking to girls on his yahoo account before even all of this happened. Hes lied to me about everything pretty much in our whole relationship/marriage. Cybering with other women and telling them he cares about them etc is cheating in my book and he told me he wouldnt be able to stay with me if i was the one doing all of this. I dont know what i am going to do but i do know i feel betrayed and hurt and probably always will.

His identicle twin brother isnt addicted to porn and he hasnt talked to anyone sexually or innapropriatly since hes been with her.

So it is that even identical twins develop different personalities because the members of their community see them as unique individuals and treat them differently. Their individual striving for status propels them into different modes of competing, which in turn differentiates their personalities.

mommaofone wrote:

my husband looks a porn too and instead we do not have very much sex....he looks at a variety of sites from what I have seen....from milfs to tweens either of which I am not.....i know how you feel.

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recently i found out it was a lot more than just porn..he has been talking to other women and being innapropriate with them in many ways. I had to infultrate his secret email account and ive witnessed everything including an email he wrote to one of these women. I confronted him and hes since begged and pleaded for me to stay with him but im not sure. He actually TOLD me that he viewed talking to most of these women as porn. Physical cheating is the next step im sure and i dont know if i want to continue to stay married to a man i cannot trust and obviously doesnt love me. To me thats cheating and im really afraid if i do stay its going to eventually effect our sex life as well.

Its hard not to take the porn sensativly im POSITIVE if he were in my shoes then he would be feeling the same way as well.