Help! Excessive mood swings and pregnancy!

Excessive mood swings and pregnancy
Her obstetrician should be able to help. Hormonal changes during pregnancy are vast.

...but she is extremely confrontational. We have not had a conversation that hasn't erupted into a fight since she has been pregnant. She's extremely impatient and excessively cruel. I've asked others and even they have said that this is a bit abnormal.

What are the circumstances? How old are the two of you? How long have you been married? Was the pregnancy planned? Is this her/ your first child? What was her life situation when she became pregnant -- working, in school, housewife...?

Basically, what hormones seem to do is act as a magnifying glass. If a person in an ideal situation is awash in hormones, he or she may be more moody and weepy, but it might be more about a sad commercial on TV or whatever. If a person is in a non-ideal situation, with a lot of pre-existing anxieties, the hormones can magnify all of that -- it's not false, per se, it's just more overwhelming/ harder to deal with.

The two of us have been seeing each other for a little less than a year. I'm 30 and she's 22. We both spent all of our time together and never fought or argued much for the majority of our relationship. We both loved the idea of having kids and liked the idea of a simple life. She worked at a bar making plenty of cash in tips while I work in the TV industry. she had been slowly pushing away from the bar life and was looking at school and starting over. I'm almost done with school and was looking to settle down. Even though we both agreed that we should look into pursuing this goal very soon, her getting pregnant right away wasn't planned. We both were happy about it but were il prepared for it. We lived together and were horribly behind on our bills. She was little nervous becuase her family lived in Arkansas and had few friends here in Tennessee. So to help her out, we moved her (last month) out to Fort Smith with her insistance. She has her own place and not far from her mother. while we were out there we got married via justice of the peace. I now live with my mother in Tennessee to help pay off what little debt we have, to save money for the baby coming and to finish my last sememster of school.

so that's the story...

and since she's been pregnant she has honestly been downright mean. Calling me irresposable, stupid, selfish and any other thing you can think. She has become very self absorbed and could care little about anyone feelings she steps on or the consequences of her words/actions. I haven't talked with her in a few days becuase she became upset becuase a check I mailed her had yet to arrive. She even threated to divorce me and/or disappear with the child.

Is this normal behavior? I'm very worried and very stressed from working extra hours and trying to finish school while my wife swears how much she hates me.

I don't know if it's normal per se, but that's approximately the back story I was expecting -- lots of legitimate anxieties amplified by hormones.

All kinds of danger signs there. Being together for such a short time, the fact that the pregnancy was unplanned, the fact that so much is in flux, that she was going towards something she wanted (pushing away from bar life and towards school and starting over), the age difference, and on and on.

I can see that what seemed like a romantic lark to her is now becoming cold hard reality and she's freaked and not handling it well.

I think just blaming it on the hormones -- even though they may well have a part -- will not be constructive here. I think you guys need to do some serious talking, perhaps with the help of a counselor. Things won't get easier when there is a baby in the mix.

Good luck.