ossobuco wrote:flushd wrote:Relationships ARE a game; you can't NOT play games.
It's how you play the game. You can play with integrity and creativity; but the way I see it we all have to play or else drop out of socializing altogether.
You dont want to be aggressive. Okay. You can still meet a nice woman.
How you approach a woman depends on your personality, and the personality of the woman you are interested in. I honestly do not think there is one right way to do it. Different things work or don't work; it's hit or miss.
I think you just need to get in there and play the game.
Take a chance. Find an excuse to talk to her. Find out about her. Let yourself be known.
Good luck!
I suppose I couldn't disagree more. Seeing though games doesn't make me fond. Life is long and art is even longer. Be yourself. If she loves you, then you have someone who loves your real self. That's a good start.
Oss, I actually completely agree with you.
My whole point was that it IS a game *but that doesnt mean you have to be a playa*
I think I may have worded things poorly. The way I see it, there are rules to meeting/getting to know people. Ralph pointed out some good examples.
Ex: If a guy stares at my chest, he's not gonna get a lot of attention from me. It's a bad move.
Ex: If someone seems confortable in their own skin, that's an automatic bonus for getting my attention.
Sorry to be so confusing, but I didn't mean to give the wrong idea.