I always forget how many people know that I'm deaf -- I need to say so every so often, I think, especially as we get newbies like Montana. I don't just "not hear very well", I'm completely, 100%, can't-hear-nuthin' deaf. Any communication happens purely through lipreading, not through any auditory channels. (Well, with hearing people -- with deaf friends, we sign.)
It's not a comfort thing, in general -- we go to the playground all the time, and there are always other moms there, and we chat. I've made a few friends that way. We have a weekly playgroup/ class that we go to that is run by the parks department and they provide free interpreting as per the ADA, so that's excellent. I get to chat with the moms with a terp. I've met a lot of people this way, too -- just not the people across the street. They aren't much of joiners, and aren't signed up for any of these kinds of things (I've asked.)
And again, I DO chat with them, I do see them. If I am out on a walk with the sozlet and they are across the street and I see them, I wave, they wave, then I wait for an indication. Once in a while there is some kind of come on over indication, and we do. But the hubby will just go over if he sees that they are in their backyard.
Oh, I just re-read and see I misunderstood you, Piffka. I'll leave what I said anyway, but I see you are talking about the comfort level of me caring for another young child, not the comfort level of taking MY child places. Yeah, the sozlet's best friend is the hearing daughter of one of my deaf friends, and I'm completely comfortable with her (I've watched her a few times) since she signs, but it would be a bit different with a hearing kid who didn't sign.
Hubby is VERY good about this kind of thing, though, and I could certainly put it to him.
And a big obstacle is the nap thing. They have really big sleep issues with their kids, and they are pretty emphatic about NOT wanting anyone to ring the doorbell/ just show up pretty much ever. So anything along those lines would have to be a note.