Lash, yes I have gone to therapy, but it just seemed futile and tiring. I haven't ruled it out, though.
ralpheb, I was in 3 years and was the brunt of some rasial squabbles. Nothing personal, but what happened resulted in my physical disability. I don't really blame anyone, and I'm not really mad about all of that anymore. My perspective of the military is that it puts your life on fast-forward, wasting all of your energy and tolerance so quickly it seems to age you. Most veterans seem tired, as if they've already lived through one harsh career, and find it hard to start another one. Like they/we feel we've earned a break, and a long one.
"lack of discipline in other people" - that was brilliantly put! That is a huge source of my anger. I hope I can find a way to let that go.
I think you're onto something - identify triggors, find something that's almost as stress relieving as yelling at the morons that pissed you off, read up on anger management. I'll try all of this! I know that when I play the drums (which is basically organized hitting), or shoot at the rifle range, I feel much less stressed. I'm not a gun-maniac by the way, I just grew up on a shooting team.
Man, I miss yelling.
Unfortunately, one of the main causes of my anger is one of my family members. I have never been able to work things out, so I'm wondering if avoidance is my best bet.
And yes I did notice that you didn't tell me just to "not let it get to me" - thank you for that.