Mrpeterson--
Welcome to A2K.
This comment bothers me:
Quote:This really upset me because I felt that they should not be involved. I was not able to be there and tell my side of the story.
Ideally your in laws would not have been involved at all, but that's all water over the dam.
Why would you think that your in laws should hear your side of the story? I'm getting a whiff of childishness here--if she's going to tell her side (to her family), I should be able to tell my side?
Was your wife simply embarrassed by the noisy argument or did you give her cause to be afraid for her physical safety.
What is done is done. Forget it.
Next time tempers flare, try your damnest to act like an adult. No screaming. No tantrums. No threats. You can't control your wife's behavior, but you can control yours.