I can't move on after affair with man.

Nothing last forever....

dolly18 - Rule #1- It is impossible to be only friends with a man whose interest in you is sexual.

How to you cope? You do. You move on to other things. Believe me, you are not the first young woman who feels crushed after the breakup of her first serious affair, and you won't be the last. But life does go on.

You are in a grieving process, and grieving takes time. You can't rush it.

Ok, here's my advice and it may not be good.

Go out and have fun. Spend time with your girl friends and your male friends that are in your age group. Don't look for a hook-up. Just TALK and LAUGH and spend time with guys your own age.
IMO, you need to wash the fantasy out of your head. A 32 yr old guy can talk up a good game to a 18 yr old woman. He knew what you wanted to hear. Don't worry about feeling bad about it now: it is over. Just learn and move on.
A good way to do that is to spend time with guys who aren't into you sexually (if you want to be sure, pick a gay friend). Listen to what they have to say. See what is actually going on in their minds concerning all matters of things.

Phoenix is right. You will cope. It is what we all have done and a lot of ius will have to do it again. After the first time it gets easier.

Take care of yourself.

You will get there Dolly.

It is tuff. i am in the middle of a similar thing myself. But dont worry babe. It all works out in the end.


Be strong and know at 18 its only the beginning

I'd love to have a quick fix to get the wrong guy out of my head, but there just isn't one...it all takes time, and in most cases it can seem as if it takes forever.

I'm still trying to figure out how to stop thinking about someone I was with, he pops up online or I see him in the street and we are back to square one and the web gets even more tangled.

I found the best way is to avoid whoever it is, and know that he is just using you, and that it will never change. The likelihood is that you will meet someone else and forget about him anyway. It does take time though I'm afraid!

To All the Lovelorn--

Ask yourself who owns your mind? Who determines your thoughts? Who is in charge of your psyche?

Changing a mental set may be difficult, but changing a mental set is not impossible.

Given a choice in the physical world between a store room of rotting fruit and a garden, you'd pick the garden.

You can make mental choices on the same, enlightened principle.

Good luck.

Whoever said love was easy was lying. It doesn't require someone love you back. And it certainly doesn't conquer all.

Keep your faith in yourself and remember that you control you. Noddy is right.