Okay dude, I just read your other thread about your old love vs. your new love, and I see that I was correct to assume that the third person thing was just your Bob Dole-ish way of telling the story (just teasing
), and it was really about you. I also see that the appearance concern is what it sounded like-- you're talking about more than just feeling like you're a bit on the homely side, eh? I mean, you mentioned a degenerative condition to do with your appearance, which no one can tell the eventual extent of.
So it boils down to, you are concerned that the girl won't be able to truly get past it, or else other people's opinions will get in the way.
#1. There are definitely people who can love each other despite terrible disfigurements and other huge problems. You can certainly find a woman who will be able to love you despite any physical problems.
#2. People are most likely not going to comment. Who would? And if your girlfriend loves you, she's going to be pissed if anybody does comment.
In my own experience just recently, I waited on an older couple, probably in their mid 60's, and the woman had an extensive disfigurement of her lip that left part of the bone showing. It was shocking, but I can't imagine
anyone commenting on it. Her husband also clearly loved her, showed his affection for her, and my feeling was that he probably hardly thought about it anymore.