What's your dream of your family/marriage

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I'm 24. single now. I want two kids in the future, one girl, one boy.

I met a guy who made me want to get married one year ago,
but when i was dreaming of a nice family and kids with him, I found he's divorced and already had kids, and he told me clearly that he doesn't want more...

I also know he loves his ex very much...
so I finally decided to quit.

These days I want a marriage, kid and warm family very much, dream of this everyday... Sad

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Hey Claire.

26 yrs here. Sometimes think of how wonderful it would be to have a fam. and a nice hubby. Then - I come to my senses! Laughing

Jk. Anyhow, I don't really have many expectations for what will happen for me. At least, I try very hard to nip 'em in the bud. Expectations can cause a lot of trouble. I have found it is better to just live day by day; enjoying all that takes place right in the moment. Easier said than done though. :wink:

Having a fam, 2 kids, house, and all those nice things is a nice dream. It would be a very nice life (though not my own personal dream). What I find myself dreaming about is having acreage by some body of water, a companion, animals, and the kids are not a big factor for me. I don't know if I want kids.

I'm sure it will happen for you one day. For now - why not just enjoy being young and single?! It won't last forever!!

take care Cool

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Almost no marriages ever end good.

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Claire - I hope all your dreams come true, but marriage and children are no fairytale. Marriage is hard work and when children come the work gets even harder. Sure there are rewards, but expectations often have to be put aside for reality.
I'm glad I did not marry in my 20's (almost did twice). The men I felt attracted to then would not be right for me today. I met my husband when I was in my mid-30's and I think part of the reason we are happy, and have lasted almost 15 years, is because we were very mature and complete individuals before we became partners.

Flushd is right - enjoy your youth, love many people, find out who you really are, have plenty of fun and when the right person comes along you will never look back with regrets.

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I'm pretty convinced I never want to get married. Well maybe when I'm older, but definitely not now or anytime soon.

For one, the idea of kids doesn't excite me. For two, I refuse to pay someone alimony because a relationship didn't work out. Figure if I don't want kids than there's no reason to get married, you can have the same life with someone without the ring and paperwork.

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I want 1 kid, it can be a boy or girl. I might get two, just so that they can play together...but I think for myself I would prefer one. We would live in the country, but not too far from a city.

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My wives will have many kids. We will all learn to sing and we will travel the country in a white bus. Our shows will involve the use of psychedelic drugs and Santa suits.

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Gargamel wrote:

My wives will have many kids. We will all learn to sing and we will travel the country in a white bus. Our shows will involve the use of psychedelic drugs and Santa suits.

Can we all come too? Laughing

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The more, the merrier! Hence my many wives.

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flushd wrote:

Expectations can cause a lot of trouble

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I am 20 and I know that someday the right man will come along for me... I am a hopeless romantic.. and I am a dreamer... so I am fine with my dreams for now, they are more exciting than reality... but once the dreaming stops and the reality sets in, then I will start thinking about settling down :-)

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flushd wrote:
Expectations can cause a lot of trouble

<nodding emphatically>

Yeah...but just as I was ready to relax mine, they all came true Smile

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Dear all, thanks for sharing for me! =)

flushd wrote:

Hey Claire.

Expectations can cause a lot of trouble. I have found it is better to just live day by day; enjoying all that takes place right in the moment. Easier said than done though. :wink:

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I'm sure it will happen for you one day. For now - why not just enjoy being young and single?! It won't last forever!!

take care

you're right.
I think I need to make some changes.

I also got this great advice, similar to yours..

"I think your thoughts on your career are absolutely right. Love and marriage and family will all happen to you when time is right. When is it right? We, humans, never know. But, before and until all those things happen, what you can and should do is make yourself as valuable as possible. Make the inherent value of yourself as high as possible. When your value as a person is high, it will be a lot easier for you to find a man with the corresponding quality. The probability that you will meet and fall in love and settle down with a man of the same high quality as you will definitely go up. So, no need to hurry. In the meantime, try to find joy in improving yourself in every aspect...."

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Green Witch wrote:

Claire - I hope all your dreams come true, but marriage and children are no fairytale. Marriage is hard work and when children come the work gets even harder. Sure there are rewards, but expectations often have to be put aside for reality.
I'm glad I did not marry in my 20's (almost did twice). The men I felt attracted to then would not be right for me today. I met my husband when I was in my mid-30's and I think part of the reason we are happy, and have lasted almost 15 years, is because we were very mature and complete individuals before we became partners.

Flushd is right - enjoy your youth, love many people, find out who you really are, have plenty of fun and when the right person comes along you will never look back with regrets.

Thanks so much Green witch.
I think I should learn to be more patient and practical, try to get more life experiences before that life-thing.

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The minute that just passed...it'll never come back, I hope you enjoyed it.

Does anyone catch my drift?

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