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Mon 10 Aug, 2026 11:23 am
hello. i currently live with my sister and mother, my dad lives close by. the environment at home is always stressful, and the way my mum treats us is toxic. i'm in therapy, and even my therapist agrees that i need to get out, as my anxiety is made worse by the conditions i'm put under- as well as creating other struggles regarding my mental health. i have the option to move in with my dad when he moves in with his girlfriend, but that is 2hrs away from where i live now and where my friends currently live. and id need to get two trains just to commute to college. im talking with my dad soon about all this, do you think there's any options other than to move far away from everyone? maybe my dad will move somewhere else instead that's closer(the most he told me so far is he says the place he's in right now isn't permanent and that moving in with his girlfriend is a preference), but i need to talk to him about it first. any suggestions and input are a big help, i just need to get out of this house, but i'm scared the distance will be too much, and that ill be too far away from my friends. what do i do?
@Radiodog,
You have my sympathy. You need to listen to advice from your therapist rather than asking internet strangers. Furthermore, You need to reduce your stress and simplify matters.
@Radiodog,
Contact your school and find out about living on campus or just off it (nearby housing, either official or unofficial). You can't possibly be the only student at your college who needs a place to live.
But recognize that roommate situations can bring with them their own special brand of anxiety.
@jespah,
I agree here - is there a reason you are not going to live at college? I understand it could be the cost.
Another thought does the school offer some classes online? You could arrange to go to campus for those classes requiring you to be in person (maybe only one or two days a week) and others online to minimize the commute time.
I'd also contact the school for their counseling services. You may qualify for some sort of accommodation depending on your mental health needs. For example, if they do have on campus housing and a roommate could cause undue stress, you may qualify for a single dorm room or if you get stressed out on test, you could qualify for extra time. But definitely see what sort of counseling office and services they may have. Whether you can qualify for an accommodation or not, they can guide you and make this a bit less stressful.
@RPhalange,
Thank you for the advice!
The college does not have student housing, so that wouldnt be an option. Accomidation wise, im diagnosed autistic and the college has shown so much support already so im sure ill be okay on that front, though ur suggestions are appretiated. As a kinda mini update to this post: im thinking about sticking it out until i can move in with my best friend (could be a few more years) but im going to talk to my dad first about it.
@Radiodog,
Well, good luck to you, then.
@Radiodog,
Great, I am glad you have already worked things out with your school. That should lessen one stressor for you. Just keep up with the resources you have and any support from family and friends.
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