WOW i REALLY need some advice

I am a 40m and my "relationship" partner is 65. its a complicated relationship. i will do my best to sum it up. #1 she is my boss. i discussed with her that i have certain feelings for her in hopes she would shoot me down and that would be the end of it. no such luck. she came back with "we can be friends" in the last year she has done things that appear that she has more than friend feelings but is internally struggling over the gap. we hang out off the clock often and never do anything beyond the scope of what friends would do but when we are alone together she is quite different than in public. i would REALLY appreciate if a woman in the same age range would message me privately so i can get her feedback on certain things i would prefer not to post here. i would also appreciate any input on the general situation from the rest of the forum. im not really what you would consider socially intelligent and i would like to get suggestions of things we can do to hang out that are appropriate for the current status. as of now she has picked all the things we have done and i feel like i should kinna step up and find things to do. so far it has been alot of wine tastings, bar visits , and hanging out at her lake house watching tv.but there has GOT to be other things i can find if i was just pointed to activity types even. im sure i will have TONS more to ask about but for now i think that is a good start