So, this may be more of a rant that anything else, but I'd love to get some feedback. I'm sure many of you have been here, and will look at it like small potatos. Easy to solve: I'd appreciate the insight.
I am SICK of listening to yet-another-sob-story from my friends about how horrible it is to be them with dating/marital problems.
The Women:
There are no nice guys out there!
None of the nice guys pay any attention to me because I am (too fat, too smart, not pretty enough, not enough of a slut, not virgin enough, not young enough, don't have enough money).
The Men:
There are no decent women out there!
Women are all sluts; and out of the nice girls they are all f*cked up from some jerks by the time I meet them.
I can't get a woman because they are ( such sluts, so stupid, only want my money, only want hot bodies, want me to have a high status, want to treated like sh*t ).
ARRRGG!
Dare to suggest that it may be THE FRIEND who is rejecting/ sending out the wrong messages and they look at me like I'm on drugs!
What is with the obsession with being in a relationship anyways?!
Here is why I am currently so annoyed by it:
I have a great friend who is a male. Known each other since we were kids. Watched each others backs through first and second heartbreak, through trying to get a job, through trying to find 'ourselves'.
We were each other's first kiss, first crush, and first fist fight
He's in the middle of a break-up after being cheated on by his fiance.
Comes to me and cries.
On one hand, I'm thinking "I'm his friend. Let him cry and whine. Be there for him."
On the other hand, I'm thinking "Why does he think he can do this to me? Why doesn't he see that I've been here for him? Sh*t, the two of us have had a great relationship and we're boy/girl. He's gonna f*ck up my possibility of finding love bc I'll be taking care of him. Either wake up or stop crying to me!"
I think the bawling over trying to know real love is getting to me. I'm starting to feel that way myself: What am I doing wrong?
Do we control who we fall in love with? Are there any answers, or is it just a messy free-for-all and hope you are lucky enough to choose/find the right one?
thanks to anyone who took the time to listen. :wink:
There really does appear to be some sort of desperation in some people though and I suspect that it is brought on by their own mindsets and feelings about themselves and misconceived notions about potential partners. The complaints your friends give you are as unfounded as can be, but I think that society itself, with a huge dose of media thrown in, has tried to quantify what makes the "perfect" person, and we, the public, have swallowed it hook, line and sinker either trying to be that perfect person or else focused on finding that perfect person.
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