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Is it ok to ask a guy you've been having sex with if he's sexually attracted to you?

 
 
Reply Thu 14 Sep, 2023 11:49 pm
I've been having sex with this guy for a year now. We've been friends with benefits but I don't know if he's actually sexually attracted to my body type. I see where he follows models on social media. This is why I'd like to ask him if he is sexually attracted to women with my body type. Or if he is only attracted to models and skinny women.

Even if we are only friends with benefits I still think it's important that both people are sexually attracted to each other because it's physical and we see each other naked. And I don't see anything wrong with a woman wanting to know that a man who sees her naked is sexually attracted to her.

I am going to say this to him...

I'd like to talk to you about something but I don't want you to think I'm trying to start drama or that I'm trying to argue. I want clarity about something. (Are you sexually attracted to women who have my type of body? Or are you only attracted to models and skinny women).

Then I'll tell him I'm asking because I am sexually attracted to him and I enjoy having sex with him and I want the feelings to be mutual.

(He's actually told me he's insecure so I'm wondering if this is the only reason why he's having sex with me. Because he's insecure about himself in bed).
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Reply Sun 17 Sep, 2023 10:45 am
@Candycreamsl,
Friends with benefits means that you are in much deeper than mere friendship. I doubt he'd be having regular sex with you if he wasn't sexually attracted to you. As a man, I know men are very unlikely to do anything that they don't really like doing, for any reason. So I think you can be pretty sure he's into your body type. And really, if you only want a friends with benefits relationship, then why even bring this up to him? If you're both happy with things, then why stir the waters. I really do not think he would be having sex with you because he's "insecure." However he does seem obsessed with a wierdly unhealthy body type - models - and that might be a red flag that he has other problems going on. Because real women have curves, and flab, and aren't manufactured barbie dolls. And they shouldn't try to be. But as long as you're enjoying this as it is, I say just go with it and don't rock the boat.
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