Stuckgirl--
Welcome to A2K.
You ask:
Quote:Is it normal to feel such sadness in a marriage and to not really even want to be in the same house as them?
Every married woman has moments of feeling like this. Like "Depression", "Ailing Marriage" can be either situational or chronic.
You write as a successful veteran of chronic depression--who happens to be married to a man who is not successful in banishing his depression.
You say that you love him; that you accept that he would not be a good father; and that parenthood is not important to you.
What is important to you? Do you feel that your husband's moods and needs are hampering your growth as a person? Do you resent that he has not made an effort to come to grips with his depression?
Married life isn't a rose garden or a bowl of cherries--but perpetual gloom and doom isn't normal, either.
What do you want? Are you sure your husband is the only person getting in the way of what you want?