Wrong to kiss drunk besties if Im lesbian and sober?

Reply Thu 25 Aug, 2022 09:25 am
Last sleepover 3 of my girl bestfriends(2 straight,1 bi) got pretty drunk and started practicing french kissing. Me and another friend didnt drink much and were sober. 2 of them first went randomly shower together(bestfriends, in swimming clothes ofc)The 3 got more and more comfortable with eachother and even drunker over the time so they were basically all making out but in a joking drunk way. At some point they really did it nonstop and even talked about getting very addicted to it and they asked me(queer lesbian),all of the time, to join them:). But I was sober and they drunk af so thats sexual abuse for me. They got a bit upset and in the morning after they still were saying that they would be totally fine with that cuz I told them pretty often that I do not crush on one of them. Would it be wrong to kiss them if its ok for them? I also wanna have fun but my queerness is putting so much pressure at me in the friend group and they are also so biased and ignorant on that topic(but supportive!). I never french kissed someone and am curious as well but also am definetly not attracted to them. I think it would be fine if I would be drunk too but I fear that they will blame me in the end cuz I´m the lesbian.
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Reply Thu 25 Aug, 2022 09:53 am
It has nothing to do with your sexuality (lesbian, heterosexual, pizzasexual, etc...). It's wrong to kiss someone (regardless of their gender or identity) without their proper consent. If someone is drunk, they can't really give proper consent.

If you're impaired in any major way, you can't give consent. That's an unbreakable cardinal rule of sexual consent. It ain't rocket science.

And even if you, yourself, was intoxicated? That wouldn't excuse the ethical circumventing of the consent issue.
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Reply Thu 25 Aug, 2022 12:31 pm
I think you tell them if they want to consent while sober, great, but you're not going there when it could be the alcohol speaking.
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