Once a cheater always a cheater?

I don't think it's a one-size fits all response.

I dont either.
I cheated once in a relationship I had about 8-9 years ago.
I think I was 20? maybe 21?
One time thing, never said anything. Im not in that relationship anymore so things are a bit diffrent now.
But I wouldnt cheat again. It wasnt something I regreted doing in the situation then, but not a choice I would make again- if that makes sense?

I think that yes "once a cheater, always a cheater" is a valid saying although as already mentioned one size does not fit all. If for example you cheated on someone many years ago especially in your formative years(late teens/early 20s) then the saying may not hold true. If however someone has shown a clear pattern of cheating and the lies associated with cheating and especially if they are unapologetic about it, it indicates that they will probably cheat again.

My ex had cheated with HIS ex - not like a repeated thing just a one night mistake.

Jo's best mate didn't like Dickey... so she got him very drunk and set him up with someone else. He kissed her once FREAKED out and ran away home

Funnily enough he's never cheated again

I am not sure that kissing someone once can be classified as cheating.

Cheating in the classic sense involves intercourse or something close to intercourse e.g. oral sex, hand job, overt sexual act. Is cybersex and online flirting cheating? My opinion is that it is a form of cheating although much more forgivable than actual physical contact.

I suppose we could start a whole new thread about what is classified as cheating.

So, Not, I assume you did kiss other women while you were still with your partner together? Interesting, throw the first stone if not, or if you NEVER checked women´s singles ad while still living with her, and eating from her table. Worse than supposed cheaters are those who judge and do the same below the table. Shame on you.

Why can't it be classed as cheating?

Ok i'll admit that I always worked on the basis that kissing was forgiveable and nothing more. So maybe the fact that i'd be prepared to forgive it discounts it as cheating.

But look at the word - cheating means not playing by the rules, it means doing things that aren't allowed. You're telling me that you wouldn't be mortified and angry if your partner kissed somebody else? If it would upset your partner then it's cheating.

Kissing is definately cheating!!

Ok, I will concede that point. I just thought that kissing her once and freaking out did not classify the guy as a cheater.

To me cheating is doing something sexual with somone else.

Im assuming the kiss wasnt the type he would give to his Grandma.

Hehe no this was not a grandma kiss

Emotional cheating
Cheating is not only physical, but emotional. I would get concerned if I find that my partner has been visiting singles'ads websites of women in his area, and he has been looking repeatedly at their pics.
This happened to me, when I asked why? he said he was just having fun (?). When I asked him why, he took it as pretext, yelled at me and left my house. I.e. he knew he was doing something wrong, he knew he was cheating (at least emotionally). Otherwise he would not have yelled and left the way he did.

However, do not complain much if your guy/gal starts flirting with other. Obviously something is missing or something is not working. Maybe you (whoever) take him/her for granted and don't take care of the rel. anymore...people need attention and love reafirmation. Anyone would go away with mistreatments (especially verbal), and indifference.

So, look at both sides....I think.