Sister and her family upset we are going to Disneyland while they are here and not letting them in o

Due to financial difficulties my sister and her family had to move into the accessory dwelling unit (ADU) on our property several weeks ago. It’s basically a studio apartment. Because its small her family is often in my house. Sometimes one of them will use our restroom if the one in the ADU is already occupied. My sister will also use our laundry machines and our kitchen when she wants to cook something big as the oven in the ADU is quite small and doesn’t have as many burners. Her kids will often be over to hang out and watch tv or play games or use the internet for school (we’ve had some technical issues with getting internet in the ADU). However the rule has always been that either my husband or myself have to be in the house when other people are over. We are not comfortable with having people over while we are not there.

Recently we were reminded by our daughter that we had planned a trip to take our kids to Disneyland during their spring break (next week). We had forgotten due to the chaos of having my sisters family here. We had promised this trip to our kids a long time ago. We just wanted to wait for our son to be tall enough for all the rides. Several months ago we noticed he was tall enough, so we planned everything and have already scheduled time off work and have our tickets and hotel reservations bought. The plan is we would be out of town for three days.

My daughter unfortunately reminded us about this in front of everyone while my sisters kids were over hanging out. So now my nephews and niece are upset because they don’t get to go. Taking them along isn’t possible because of the cost and because we don’t have a vehicle big enough for everyone.

Another thing that has upset them as well as my sister is that since we will be gone for three days they will not have access to the main house in that time. Like I said earlier we are not comfortable having people in our house while we are gone due to bad past experiences. We didn’t think it would be a huge issue though. We figured during that time we could temporarily move our bedroom tv into the ADU as well as the xbox so the kids could still play. They say the bedroom tv isn’t big enough which is true its much smaller than the living room one, but that one is mounted to the wall so it’s not easy to move. We also have at least over 20 games on the xbox and had planned on renting dads from redbox, but apparently all they want to play though is online games though which won’t work in the ADU. Otherwise they want to play the games on the Nintendo switch. However we had planned on taking that with us so our kids to use on the flights. We’re going to have a lot of down time.

My sister is upset because she won’t be able to use the laundry machines or the kitchen. However I don’t see why she can’t go 3 days without Ising the laundry machine. She’s also definitely gone more than three days without using our kitchen before. One average she usually just uses it twice a week. She’s also upset because she thinks she won’t get enough space from her kids while she is working (she works from home) as they are usually in school or hanging out at our place. We however do have a bunch of stuff for them to play with outside and a big safe area for them to play. So I feel like she can send them outside to play. We have swings, a sandbox, a basketball hoop, several bikes, a croquet set, cornhole, water guns, and more games that’s just on the top of my head. It all seems like more than enough for kids to occupy themselves for a few days, but my sister says they don’t like playing outdoors.