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One Night Stand with Married Man-need help!!!!!!!!

 
 
trugirl
 
Reply Wed 3 Aug, 2005 04:47 pm
Geez, just writing that makes me sick to my stomach----did i really do that?
I follow a certain famous group of athletes and go to many of their events. In February of 2004 a good friend of mine died and looked up to one of these athletes. The next week, that athlete got hurt and almost died. It was almost too much for me to handle in one week. Ever since that, I've felt an emotional pull towards the athlete, but didn't think I'd get to meet him (he wasn't around much last year). I posted a message on his website about his wreck and to my surprise, his mom emailed me personally. We kept in contact and she said that she hoped I could meet him one day. That day came in March 2005. We were hanging out and I asked if I could talk to him. We sat down and I told him about my friend looking up to him, etc. There was an instant attraction between us and it scared me a little bit. He said something to suggest meeting later on. I was overwhelmed because I knew he was married and unlike his other circuit friends, he was not a cheater. He had way to much invested in that marriage. Needless to say, we both acted on something and ended up together. Instead of dismissing he afterwards, we talked and he asked me tons of things about my life and we ended up talking about tons of stuff until the morning. The only reason we stopped talking was because he had to catch a flight home at 7 a.m. When he was leaving, he kept hugging me and asked when he'd see me again. I had no idea when I could go to another event so i didn't know.
Well i saw him again a few months later, but with his wife and newborn baby. we didn't talk but he looked at me a couple of times. i didn't know what to do and seeing them broke my heart. i saw them again this past weekend and stepped into an elevator with them in it! i think i possibly stopped breathing that whole time. i'm pissed because everyone thinks that he is this great guy with a great life and i know that he's not. i just read a magazine article that praised him and his relationship with God, etc. It has disillusioned me so much about men because he would be the last one on my list of cheaters. I don't know how to let this go and move on! What do you think he is feeling? I know that our connection that night was not a common thing because it wasn't just "after sex" talk. it was emotional!!!!!!!!!!! I'm working on getting over him, but i find myself going to his website and constantly checking up on him!!! please help!!!
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candidone1
 
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Reply Wed 3 Aug, 2005 05:23 pm
Re: One Night Stand with Married Man-need help!!!!!!!!
trugirl wrote:
Geez, just writing that makes me sick to my stomach----did i really do that?
I follow a certain famous group of athletes and go to many of their events. In February of 2004 a good friend of mine died and looked up to one of these athletes. The next week, that athlete got hurt and almost died. It was almost too much for me to handle in one week. Ever since that, I've felt an emotional pull towards the athlete, but didn't think I'd get to meet him (he wasn't around much last year). I posted a message on his website about his wreck and to my surprise, his mom emailed me personally. We kept in contact and she said that she hoped I could meet him one day. That day came in March 2005. We were hanging out and I asked if I could talk to him. We sat down and I told him about my friend looking up to him, etc. There was an instant attraction between us and it scared me a little bit. He said something to suggest meeting later on. I was overwhelmed because I knew he was married and unlike his other circuit friends, he was not a cheater. He had way to much invested in that marriage. Needless to say, we both acted on something and ended up together. Instead of dismissing he afterwards, we talked and he asked me tons of things about my life and we ended up talking about tons of stuff until the morning. The only reason we stopped talking was because he had to catch a flight home at 7 a.m. When he was leaving, he kept hugging me and asked when he'd see me again. I had no idea when I could go to another event so i didn't know.
Well i saw him again a few months later, but with his wife and newborn baby. we didn't talk but he looked at me a couple of times. i didn't know what to do and seeing them broke my heart. i saw them again this past weekend and stepped into an elevator with them in it! i think i possibly stopped breathing that whole time. i'm pissed because everyone thinks that he is this great guy with a great life and i know that he's not. i just read a magazine article that praised him and his relationship with God, etc. It has disillusioned me so much about men because he would be the last one on my list of cheaters. I don't know how to let this go and move on! What do you think he is feeling? I know that our connection that night was not a common thing because it wasn't just "after sex" talk. it was emotional!!!!!!!!!!! I'm working on getting over him, but i find myself going to his website and constantly checking up on him!!! please help!!!


Sounds to me like you're groupie who actively sought the personal contact with this athlete and bought the "I'm not a cheater" hook, line and sinker.
If this was in fact true, he would not have had relations with you. [/i]Now he's a liar and a cheater[/i], and he's got you still chomping on the bait he threw to you in the hotel room.
Sounds to me like you ned to distance yourself form him, his wife and his child because the only one who seems to be a threat to the situation is you.
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candidone1
 
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Reply Wed 3 Aug, 2005 05:28 pm
The more I read your post, the more you sound like a stalker.
"Getting over" people is reserved for people who have been tied up in a relationship, not a person involved in a one night stand.
Your concern and connection with this athlete sounds unhealthy and immature and I'd advise you to sever ties with him in all forms.

But that's just coming form a guy who's been stalked before.
Call me crazy.
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fishin
 
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Reply Wed 3 Aug, 2005 06:17 pm
Re: One Night Stand with Married Man-need help!!!!!!!!
trugirl wrote:
I know that our connection that night was not a common thing because it wasn't just "after sex" talk. it was emotional!!!!!!!!!!!!


And then... reality sets in.

It was "emotional"??? Where I come from what you describe is called a "conversation".

Look, you got used for sex for a night. That's all there is to this story.
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gailt
 
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Reply Wed 3 Aug, 2005 06:58 pm
i have a question for anyone out there about giving up parental rights. my boyfriend, adopted his ex wifes daughter, now they are divorced and it has been one hassle after another. He is thinking about signing over his rights, but I was told that the ex wife can refuse. is this true?
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fishin
 
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Reply Wed 3 Aug, 2005 09:15 pm
gailt wrote:
i have a question for anyone out there about giving up parental rights. my boyfriend, adopted his ex wifes daughter, now they are divorced and it has been one hassle after another. He is thinking about signing over his rights, but I was told that the ex wife can refuse. is this true?


There are probably 30 or so threads on this specific question around here somewhere (you might try a search of the "Legal" forum on teh term "parental rights") but GENERALLY, no.

But it doesn't matter because the state (i.e. a judge) makes the decision, not the ex-wife and they usually won't allow someone to simply sign themselves out of a child's life and avoid financial responsibility.

http://www.able2know.com/forums/viewtopic.php?t=46675
http://www.able2know.com/forums/viewtopic.php?t=43861
http://www.able2know.com/forums/viewtopic.php?p=1145195
etc...
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shewolfnm
 
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Reply Wed 3 Aug, 2005 09:21 pm
for some reason, this strikes me as a fantasy world..
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