Fri 25 Mar, 2022 09:46 pm
I [M19] need some advice on how to deal with one of my friends[F20] (who I will call Jane for the sake of this post). To clarify I do not want a romantic relationship with her nor does she want one with me, I have already a girlfriend and Jane is very supportive of us and has never show romantic interest in me. to start, Jane wants to call/text me mulitpul times a day and talk for hours, I value her friendship but i don't always have the time to talk and when i tell her this, she becomes very passive aggressive, whenever I ask what's wrong she refuses to answer and says it's nothing, and acts like i'm trying to tell her how she feels.
What does your GF think of you spending so much energy on a female friend? How would you feel if GF had such a friend?
You need to learn how to detach from needy people, especially manipulative ones.
Set some boundaries - tell her you don't talk to anyone that many times a day and she needs to stop. Quit answering her texts/calls. Answer just one a day. Tell her you have work to do. Don't take her passive aggressive crap - it belongs to her and she can't dump it on you unless you let her. Don't ask what's wrong - just say, 'Gotta go, Jane! Talk next week."