Husband obsessed with long hair websites

It's hair. Don't worry too much about it unless he starts bringing home long haired ladies or you start spotting pictures of him with long haired ladies. As these things go it is one of the less harmful things which can happen. So he looks. don't let it worry you. The fact that he lies about it could be a problem, so maybe that just adds to his long hair viewing compulsion. Tell him again why you cannot grow your hair that long and let him know its okay if he wants to look around on the internet and get his enjoyment that way.

Two quick questions: Have you considered wearing a long haired wig for him? Not out in public, but at home at times or just occasionally in the bedroom.

How long have the two of you been together?

Just wait...over the years he'll start to grow tons of hair in his nose and ears. Then it will be your turn to complain.

Long hair websites?




Is this, like, the usual Relationships & Marriage thread cloaked in euphemism?

I initially thought this was about Brazilian v au natural but ...

google says ...

Huh. No accounting for taste, I guess.

The Rapunzel Syndrome/Sindrome.

If you really respected him you'd let him pick your hair style?

Try selecting his leisure wardrobe--the informal round-the-house stuff--as see how much he "respects" you.

I'd have a major problem with him turning it around like that and making your desire to have short hair into a personal attack on him. It's your hair. You geet to decide how you like to wear it. What on earth does that have to do with you not respecting him? That's purely an attempt to control.

My question would be the general age of the girls on the sites he goes to, since I usually associate long hair with younger girls.

Well, I've told my girlfriend that I'd hate to see her cut her hair short. If she did, I'd hate the haircut, but not the girl under it.
Seems he has an infatuation with the hair and not you...which I think seems abnormal.
To me, if this isn't remedied, it's a deal breaker.
Yes, it's that big a deal.

Do you have any links to these long hair websites?

Yep, get a wig. Or two. I bet it'll turn him on. Have some fun with it.

We have only been together for about 3 years. He definitely was not like this when I decided to marry him. The girls in the pictures are in there mid to late 20's, maybe a few are a little older. The whole situation occurred again last night. He was at work all day, came home and went upstairs. He claimed that he was looking up those parts again and looking up stuff for the house, which took him about 2 hours. He came down for dinner and went right back up, saying that he was just emailing his boss and he would be right down. Over an hour later, I went up to go to bed and he was still on the computer, "looking things up". He got an attitude when I said I was going to bed...basically saying that he wanted to do something last night.

As far as me and a wig, I have grown my hair out to just above my shoulders, which is longer than it was. There are times he just wants my hair, not me.

I don't know how to approach him, last night he accused me of being mad, I told him that I wasn't mad, just hurt. Hurt by the fact that he wants the computer more than me. How can I approach him without him getting offended?

www.tlhs.org

that is the main site he goes to, there are a few others though

Yes he was.

He seems to be slipping into a pattern of making you responsible for his happiness by being completely responsive to his every wish while ignoring your wishes.

Would he be receptive to seeing a counselor?

Is it wrong for me to believe that he is thinking of one of those women with long hair while we are making love?

You know what I think that he is just confused. One minute he says he likes the short hair that I had when we met and the next he is asking me to grow it down to my butt.

Also he always wants me to put my hair in pigtails, or french braided pigtails, even just a ponytail. I've told him that I feel like I am 5 when I do some of those things to my hair. He doesn't seem to understand that either. Am I the only one that feels that wearing your hair certain ways makes you feel like a little girl and you should be running around at the park?

What really confuses me is that when we met I had short hair, he told me that he loved my short hair and that was one of the reasons that he approached me.

he believes that counselors are frauds basically. As I have been reading some of the responses to my problem, I realized that I may not have such a problem with it if he would respond to some of my fantasies. Maybe I should be more insistent on some of them and see how he responds to it. Another things is that my main concern is that when we are making love, is he is making love to an image in his head that he wishes I had or is he making love to me.

What I meant my he wasn't like this when we got married is that he didn't force the his ideas on me. He said his peace and we left it at that. Now it's that whole thing about me not respecting his opinion crap.

I think I am just going to have to confront this head on. I can't continue to sit here and get all upset about this.

Thank you all for the help!!

Ireland--

Is he under any particular stress at his job or with his family that he thinks would be balanced by you making concessions?