problem talking to people

Maybe asking for help on a subject will help break the ice. Even if you dont NEED the help, it might open the door to at least start talking to someone.

Picture them naked. Imagine they are just sitting there , completely naked, and more intimidated then you are. You will get a good chuckle and it will take your mind off of being nervous.

Practice. Just start saying HI with no intention of keeping a conversation. When you pass someone whio gives you eye contact.. just blurt out HI! And keep going. That will help you get used to the fluttery feeling you get when you talk to someone and break a little ice for you about talking to people. Do it in a grocery store, on the street.. you may be surprised . someone may start a great conversation with you!

If someone does start a conversation with you and you are just petrified about taking to them,make a joke about it . Laugh at your mistakes if you make any . A good way to keep a conversation going is to let a person talk about themselves . Ask questions about them, be interested in them. That makes a person feel good and want to come back and talk to you more.

If you are looking for a man to date , take that off of your mind for a while. If you try to start a conversation thinking you are only going to either get a date or not, you remove alot of social possibilities by limiting your acceptable out comes of that conversation.

it is hard to just start talking to people . Alot of times people are offset by someone who approaches them " just to talk" but that suspicion is usually put aside after a few minutes of talking.

Best advice... just do it.
The worse that can happen is that you have to try again with someone else.
Good luck .

I think you have Social Anxiety/Social Phobia Don't worry too much about it because your not the only one and it can only get better. :wink: Speak to a doctor or ask to see a specialist, I did and you know what? It brought such a change in me that noone can recognise me. I'm not that girl in the corner anymore atleast. And people are starting to remember my name

I was going to say what Shewolf did...make it a habit to say hi to people, with no intention of conversation, and if you get into a conversation, it's a bonus. Don't worry about what to say, it's not what, it's how.

And even though there's no set way to do this, you need to figure out how to increase your confidence.

i am

I know how you feel coffeemate.

Other than getting blind drunk(as that is a sure fire way of talking to everybody and not worry about it)these are my suggestions-

Accidently on purpose trip up, dont fall flat on yuor face but stumble, make a mini fuss and laugh at yourself.It will show people you have a sense of humour and you can laugh at yourself which will make you approcahable.

If you catch someones eye, smile.

Always remember people are probably just as shy as you are,and they probably want to talk to you to.

One year later, you come back with this insightful post.

Good job.

omg slappy, good one, I just noticed those dates.


coffee creamer, you're a real chatterbox, aren't you?

A good friend of mine has terrible trouble talking to the opposite sex and sufferes from severe social anxiety. He tried every drug on the market until he found Buprenorphine. Now he takes the drug 5 times daily and has become a school teacher. However, this drug is related to heroin...

omg slappy, good one, I just noticed those dates.


coffee creamer, you're a real chatterbox, aren't you?


see now, don't wait another year to answer me...

what did you mean by "i am"?

oooohh half and half.......?


come out come out......

let's chat about this and that.

you don't have to worry, I can find plenty of things to talk about...

Just say "Hello," or "How are you?" with no real expectation of what will follow. Try to find something relevant to the situation, yet low key, like, "That homework took a long time," or "That was a good question you asked."

The worst mistake you can make is attaching too much importance to such chatting. When you're saying things like, "Nice day isn't it?" it should be possible to take the attitude that conversational success or failure is not something to worry about. Remember that even an awkward conversation with a particular person can be undone by a good one another day.

Knock knock

whos there?

not coffee mate



( I crack myself up )

I'm coming back to this thread in one year's time to see what exciting progress has been made! Oh, how I long to find out the end of that sentence..."I am"....but what, what??

I loves me a cliffhanger!