when the kissing stops

Daisysc

who is Bill, and why did u post this here?

Re: when the kissing stops


I'm not sure what's so confusing, but tell me if I have this right.

You're overweight and your husband acknowledges this may be an issue. You seem to believe it's an issue to him and that it's contributing to his loss of sexual appetite. He implies through his actions that you should be thinner, but, like a jealous and immature 14 year old, he won't support you in trying to become more attractive to him because more attractive to him also means more attractive to men in general.
He wants to imprison you and hold you hostage with your weight...which probably contributes to even more gains.

My take?
Take control of your life. Take control of your eating. Take control of your health.
I am a firm believer in the notion that a healthy body contributes to a healthy mind, and vice versa. Weight gain and the sense of helplessness one faces when your partner doesn't support you (in any way regarding the matter) turns this molehill into a mountain fast.

You do not need him to help you lose weight...and you certainly shouldn't be doing it to become more attractive to him. Do it for yourself, and do it for life. Find meaning in a healthy lifestyle and you'll realize, not what's wrong with you, but what's wrong with him.

Good luck and keep us posted.

i dont think overweight or proportional weight :wink: , has nothing to do with kissing, i know that when i have bad breath from coming from work or my lady has bad breath i definetly dont feel like smelling it or having her smell it , it might start as nice but when you get a bad wiff... butterflyes fly away . check in to that maybe you have bad breath and your hubby dont wanna tell you, or maybe he does and he dont want you to smell him.

and is not the same walking down the street and look at a gal with nice booties just hoping for a wam,bam,thank you man deal. as the husband coming tired from work stressing over $$$, raising kids (if any). who knows what the guys at work are putting him trought.

look me an my lady definetly dont look the same as when we were going out, i had a six pack now i got the keg, she had my two beautifull children and i love her, is not that she dont attract me is that i hove a lot of things in my mind and even do i am supposed to be affectionate and loving it dosent happen as it should because our marriage is maturing.

Be healthy for you: so you dont get a freaking heart attck and leave your family alone before you should, forget if you are skiny or fat if you look good or not, take a vacation and get kinky and maybe a little dirty with your hubby why not? and hell show you affection, you need to relax and not feel like every hug he gives you he is going to feel your donuts.. feel the hug . :wink:

and dont be looking to see if the guys are checking you out to make you feel you got it going on. please think only of your hubby dont compare guys on the street shoot at anything that moves alot of times.

see ya , good luck