Maybe you're a turn off. You want him to wash your car, you won't visit his family on Sundays, you think his granddaughter is over too much, you won't take your car on vacation, etc etc etc ... what do you
do for him
? Why don't you get out there and surprise him and wash both your cars? Why don't you romance yourself? Why not accept who he is, for a change?
My husband doesn't 'romance' me in the traditional sense, either, but then... I'm not the type who wants it. When he invites me to tag along with his buddies or go to a football game or wants to go out for dinner, I think that's romance.
Maybe you could dial your demands down a notch.