How do you get sexually aroused by a 'good girl'?

might be something other than good/bad. Some men have problems getting aroused by smaller women, too much like trying to get turned on by children assuming you're not Jeffrey Epstein or Bill Clinton. In that case the idea is to date bigger women.

Oh I didn't think it was a physical issue, such as big vs. small, I thought it was a personality issue, such as innocent vs. naughty.

Bad girls are exciting and manipulative because they are either being paid to be that way or they see you as something to entertain or get something from you.

Did you pay for Bad Girl attention?


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No I didn't pay for it before, why?

Oh thanks, but what do you mean by use my imagination?

Can you simply ask your partner for what you want?

I am not exactly sure what you mean by "naughty"... are these things that she would do for you if you simply let her know? It is a strip tease? Is it oral sex? Is it sex outside? If something is exciting to me and a partner says "I don't do that" it is kind of a buzzkill. But if she says "I don't know exactly how to do this, but I would like to try".... that is as exciting as hell.

In the BDSM community, there is a ritual that I think is a good idea for everyone (even outside of BDSM). You sit down with a partner and create three lists.

- What are things that I enjoy or would love to try?
- What are things that I may be interested or curious about, but I am not sure I would like?
- What are things that I hate or never want to try?

Then you can have an open conversation, and you can talk about how to have an exciting sex life for both.

I have always found that communication is the key to great sex.

Oh well it's just my body is aroused by being taken by surprise normally, and if I have to talk to her about it, that means I will not be taken by surprise therefore, and thus the arousal will not likely work.