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I'm confused. It's July 19th. How did you have sex with this woman 6 days from now?

Ah, that makes more sense, calendar-wise.

Dunno. There've been some women who didn't know they were pregnant 'til they went into labor.

Anyway, why not just do a home pregnancy test or call a doctor and find out for sure?

And, I still can't figure out the dates here. If she didn't have her period by July 4th, well, it's July 19th, like I said. What's happened in the past 2 weeks? Did she get her period or not? Seems like the answer to that question would be Job One, and if the answer is that she still hasn't gotten her period, Job Two is a home pregnancy test and Job Three a trip to the doctor's.

As my Catholic neighbor with 8 kids once said:"the rhythm method doesn't work and my last 6 kids are proof". Plus you are more likely to pick up a disease like AIDS if a woman is menstrating at the time of sex.

She might be pregnant or she might be stringing you along for the attention. She could find out in five minutes if she takes an easily purchased pregnancy test kit. If she is pregnant make sure you get a DNA test to prove it's yours. Who knows how many other partners she might have entertained in the last 2 months. I doubt her period is as late as she claims. A normal cycle is 26-30 days, it can be changed with the use of birth control pills.

By not using a condom you have put yourself in a sad situation. At best you are being used as emotional entertainment, at worst you might have created an unwanted child or contracted a deadly disease. I hope nothing comes of this adventure, but if it does- you have only yourself to blame.

NO EXCUSES.You must use condoms!!At least.
A woman can get pregnant ant any point in her cycle, at some points it is more likely.

I cant work out if your worried she is pregnant, or worried she wants a termination?
Do you want a child?

If she is pregnant, she's made it very clear that she wants nothing to do with you. You might never know because she may never tell you.

The time a few days after the last day of her period -- in other words, depending on her cycle, shortly before she was ovulating -- is a lot more worrisome than the time at the end of her period.

I agree with Bella's take.

Good luck...

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I think "I'll take care of it" means that she thinks this is her decision and she doesn't want your opinions or advice or worries.

I would guess that if she is pregnant, she plans to abort, but no one knows for sure and certain--not even your paramour.

I think the thing is awkward all around. She may feel odd about the sex and now wants to kind of sweep that under the rug. And, she may be in denial about the possibility of a pregnancy. After all, the people who are most likely to get pregnant (e. g. fertile and super-duper young) are the most likely to also feel invincible.

Mail her a pregnancy kit if you have to. Even if she does not want to know, it is better for everyone's peace of mind if all the facts are known. And, it's exactly what you say, if she wakes up and smells the coffee and it's too late, then it's a real problem. AND -- if she decides to go to term, you will have rights if paternity is proven. As in parental rights -- and potentially parental responsibilities.

Write a check for an abortion if you have to. This is clearly not a great time or situation for parenthood for either of you. But keep in mind, she seems flaky about it, and getting too aggressive vis a vis money might create more problems than it solves. She might just feel you are paying her off.

Question: how do you know her? Are there any mutual friends who might be able to act as go-betweens?

She's already called the police when you tried to talk to her. She told you she'd solve it by herself if she turned out to be pregnant, which is unlikely but possible. She's told you she has irregular cycles and being late isn't unusual.

You're driving yourself crazy but she doesn't want any more contact with you. She's trying to tell you to back off, not to worry about it, and to move on. I think that's what you should do.