How to get a boyfriend advice, please

I would recommend you get over your fear of online dating. You will have lots of guys coming after you and wanting to talk to you. Even if none of them are interesting to you, you will get practice communicating.

Online dating is generally safe if you follow the precautions. Don't give out personal information right away. Talk with someone for a while. And then... meet in a public place. With covid, you can set up a zoom date (which is perfectly safe... the worse that can happen can be fixed quickly by simply turning off the app, and usually people are reasonably decent).

Outside of online dating, you have to go do things with other people. Try meetups, church, hobbies, whatever you are in to. If you are around men, one of them will show interest in you.

Of course... you can also ask a man out.

A lot of guys are shy too and might want to ask you out, but are unwilling to resist the sting of rejection, so don't. This is particularly a problem that very beautiful women have. Sometimes men don't ask very beautiful women out because they're intimidated. When I was dating, I always appreciated it when a girl gave me hints that she wanted me to ask her out. When I knew that there wasn't much chance of rejection, it was much easier to do.

If you want some particular guy to ask you out, give him "go ahead" signals. A hand on the arm is always good.

I did not have my first until around that age, either, for many reasons. It will happen, trust me. I don't blame you for being reticent about online. You are CORRECT. You have NO IDEA who or what the person is, or their life situation. Men in serious relationships use those to find a "distraction". (I know, I had one of those). Anyway, you don't need to rush it. It will all fall in to place for you when it is time. I met my husband when a relationship was the furthest thing from my mind.