Married 3 years and No Lovin

Re: Married 3 years and No Lovin
so bud where are you from, and what do you do for a living. if you dont mind telling and what dose she do. hey have any children.

Before we can address any solution, we need to know whats going on. Kids? What do you do for a living? What does your wife do? Is she depressed? Is there something going on outside the bedroom (fight, or continuing dispute)?

We need more info before we can begin to help you find a solution.

Re: Married 3 years and No Lovin
I HATE TO SAY WHAT I THINK.

Re: Married 3 years and No Lovin
I HATE TO SAY WHAT I THINK.

hey I am in the same boat. I've been married for 2 years, I cant figure it out. Sometimes we talk about it, and she says that she sorry or that she often has her period and some problems, but that we should try it more often. But we dont. Even when everything is fine (physically) we dont do anything. strange.

when you were going out you had a six pack
now you have a keg

are you trying as hard to get her in bed as when she was your girlfriend??

or if when you were going out and you wanted to score the first time and she said no......did you gave up and ask this forum???

maybe now that we got it, we want it to be easier,,,I DONT THINK SO!!

power to all the girls who make the man work for it!!

So what? a girl has to act like she doesn't want it. I don't like your advise. It's bullshiat. why don't guys ever make their girls work for it??? Fvck mind games, i bet his wife doesn't fix herself up as much as she used too, but this guy still wants to hit it. All us guys want is for our women to admit they want it just as much as we do. No mind games, just honesty.

you are probably right about the girl not fixing herself up as before,but you dont see her posting how to turn up the fire , what i said was a suggestion maybe i did not sugar coated,maybe it works i am not trowing bull to anyone and if you dont like my advice well dont read it!!!! i have not said any bad words or insult and you are going off at my posts, dude chill... this is here for everybodys point of view not to make the 280+ post tenoch happy!!!

live and let live :wink:

That's exactly the problem. You don't see girls asking for advise. They just curl up into a little ball and don't ask for help. Girls just get more and more depressed and leave it up to the guy to do something.(i'm not trying to generalize here. i'm just saying that mostly on this site it's guys who comlain mostly about not enought sex)

By the way, all i did was disagree with your advise. i wasn't trying to put you down. I just don't agree with your 2cents. (btw you also posted this that exact same advise in two different threads)

yea i posted in two different threads "because it was the same question!!"
it's true guys are the most asking for more sex, girls have a way of controling it better (i think), we definetily dont want a depress wife thats why we should do all that stuff as when we were trying to make them fall in love with us,at the begining, then they feel the attention and go for it,if they had children and went thru the pregnancy overweight months, they need "US" the husbands to treat them as if they never changed who cares if they gained weight more to love .

hey and dont come here saying you are not trying to put me down when you tell me to shut up in the other post,but let bygones be bygones ill accept your disagreement.
all cool :wink:

Stop using sex as a weapon.

I'm reading the night away at posts in the relationship section and seeing if there is any advice that I can use. Well, when I come across this one I must say if I want it I'm not going to go clam up and when I get stressed doesn't mean this woman doesn't want it "Hell, where's the stress reliever, I have a headache fix me please, I have a craving and he doesn't feel in the mood. Okay, honey why don't you drive I don't feel like driving. Well, what do you know dress, no panites, or if it is winter time then look out buddy because that doesn't stop this woman.. Tringe coat, jeans, high heels, and etc (not going into full details) . We get in the car he's driving he can't wreck the car and he can't ignore me because he stuck beside me so, off goes the shirt and off go the jeans, and etc next thing you know he's saying dam, you're turning me on.. I'm thinking that's good because now you are mine and you just thought you weren't in the mood..!! ;-) Girls, if your man isn't in the mood or if you are trying to get the fire "spark" back here are some thoughts.

1. Clean house nude "leave the curtains open during the day no one can see in the house"

2. Make him drive - dress/skirt and no panties

3. Cook dinner have one of his buttom up shirts on if he is a business man then put one of his button up shirts on "not his favorite as he will be more worried about the grease that gets on it from the cooking" (some men would be) and put on one of his neck ties, or just his button up shirt and only button down to the third button,

4. A. Make him drive - and give him a bj while he is driving
B. Make him drive - (be creative)

Be creative and do things that you normally wouldn't do if you have to. "Be open minded"

Okay, Guys to turn on your woman..

1. Buy her flowers just because, or even a simple card "make sure the flowers aren't half dead - no brown spots on the petals"

2. Make her a bubble bath, turn out the lights and light some candles "go to the local wal-mart, dollar store, mall, candle shop, flower shop, almost anywhere has them even the grocery stores."
Leave her a note to one of the first places she goes either when she gets home or if you are coming home and she's already home tell her you'll be right back that you are going to go get some comfy clothes on and if she says well you never do that first tell her that you had a long day at work and that you feel like staying home. Or tell her that you want to suprise her and ask her to leave for ten minutes long enough to get everything prepared.

Leave a post it note on the counter for her every morning by the coffee pot simply say I love you or I'm going to miss you or I'll be thinking about you or give me a call when you get the chance "if she is usually busy during the day at work if she would use it for an excuse then don't say that and expect to get a call" she might say oh well, honey I'm sorry I was busy today.

Make reservations at a restraunt and suprise her or tell her that you have an important date and she has to go and she's going to be like well what do I wear. If it's an ellegant place and she asks you what should I wear tell her a dress or help her pick out her clothes. Pay attention to small details on what she wears with what and then you can even pick out the outfit if you have to write it down put it in your wallet, include the shoes and color, be sure to put her name on it so if she gets your wallet and sees it then she'll know it's her she'll think what is this for but keep two different outfits in there or put one in the glove box of the car with the insurance paper work. That way when she asks what to wear then you'll know what to say or have an idea.

Just some ideas

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