I have reason to believe I'm in love with this man at work. I have known him for just under 4 years.
I have been told he does the following:
Stares at me
Asks my friends for any new information about me - where I go, what hours I work, why I haven't come into work (we have worked in separate offices for 3 years- I used to work with him for 18 months - but in the same building)
Asks my friends for photos of me as a child
Tells my male friends he doesn't want them talking to me and tells them he gets angry when they do - even more so when they make me laugh
Tells my female friends that what I write "turns [him] on." I once wrote in response to a question saying what makes one relaxed that I like getting massaged because that helps me to relax (nothing naughty) and he told them that comment "excited" him.
Looks up my skirts/dresses and looks down my tops (not sure what he's hoping to find)
Leers at me
Smiles at me and licks his lips
Walks right up behind me
Looks at my butt (?)
Scans my body up and down
There was one time I was on a dating site, about 2 years ago, and he communicated to me over this dating site through very explicit messages. Another time at work he told me he didn't want me leaving the company for another job, that he would be unhappy if I did. I was off work for 6 weeks due to sickness and according to my friends he told them he was worried I'd left. He's brushed against me in stairwells and put his hands on my lower back.
I do like him, but I was abused as a child and there was one time when this guy took me off, got me alone with him and rubbed his body against mine. I don't have much experience dating men because I was always seen as the ugliest girl anyone at school had ever seen and I was picked on for my looks.
I am debating whether to tell him how I feel, but it's so hard with COVID restrictions. I find him attractive, he has a nice face and really intense dark eyes and he's always helped me.
I told my family about his behaviour and they tell me he sounds like bad news to them - are they right?