Why is my boyfriend not wanting to have sex as often?

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My boyfriend and I have been together a year now. We’ve been living together for the past 3 months and in those 3 months we had sex once and it was around the time I moved in. Before, when I lived far away I was only able to see him every 2 weeks or once a month and on those weekends we did it every day of the weekend. I’ve asked why and have made comments about wanting to do things but he kinda just ignores it. When I asked why he doesn’t ever want to do it.. he just says he doesn’t want us to “get bored”. I’ve tried to get him to try different positions but he always wants to stick with the same 2 positions.. so that doesn’t make sense to me? I don’t feel like he doesn’t love me though.. he’s always giving me kisses and hugs and cuddling me. He’s affectionate. I just don’t understand.. a guy in his early 20s with such a low sex drive? — well I know he watches porn though.. but I assume he does that when I’m away or asleep in the room. I don’t know.. so much has crossed my mind and I don’t understand?

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@Ailaht,

It sounds like you really need to sit down with him and talk it out. Maybe he is getting his kicks looking at the porn and so sex with you seems a bit boring. (This is one of the problems associated with heavy porn usage, in my personal opinion.)

But I will throw out an idea here that may sound a bit out there. When you feel in the mood, just start parading naked around the house in front of him. If after walking past him (just casually, you know, to get a drink in the kitchen, etc.) and maybe plopping down next to him naked doesn't get his motor running, then I think he may be broken and you might need to trade him in on a new model. lol

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@Ailaht,

You should communicate with him, not us. That's the first thing. Online forums are a guide, but not a substitute, for solving your own relationship issues.

Secondly, you should ask if there's something bothering him. Maybe he likes you but is worried he can't be a good father if you get preg (assuming this is straight sex). Maybe he sees porn, and the reality is not what the porn advertises, or the fantasy is getting in the way of real sex somehow. Maybe he's unsure about new positions. Maybe he's not confident about his prowess, or worried that he's boring because he only likes two positions.

The thing is, you can't find any of that out by talking to us. You gotta talk to HIM.

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Maybe routine is killing you? Living together is a hard nut to crack in terms of not getting bored with each other. Maybe the problem is that he watches porn, maybe that's the problem. The guy has an imaginary idea of sex or is he lazy enough to not move but prefers to watch? I don't know, strange coincidence

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@Ailaht,

Have you gained a significant amount of weight recently?

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@bulmabriefs144,

Complete agreed on your both points

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sorry sister but maybe you should watch your behavior towards him nowadays and hoe you dress may also count. But if you think there is nothing wrong with what I am saying then maybe he found himself in another relationship.
remember there is a way to make him worship you like goddess just ask me how

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I think it's all about talking. Maybe he's not able to express how he can enjoy sex or how he likes it to be done. Watching porn lets him play in his fantasies. Perhaps you can encourage him to bring his fantasies into your sex.
Ultimately, all you can do is talking to your bf. cause nobody here knows what's up with him.

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@longjon,

Bwa ha ha ha ha ha ... OMG

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@destinyal,

Seriously? You are beyond the pale.

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@Mame,

Mame wrote:

Bwa ha ha ha ha ha ... OMG

I know, still laughing here.

On the other hand, he may just need a meal ticket until he finds a better situation. In other words, dead beat.

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@destinyal,

How i want to know

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