Sex is...Boring

why dont you make the move then?

If you want change, change what you do.

While he is playing video games, stand in front of the TV naked
THAT will get his attention.

When he grabs your boobs in an attempt to 'turn you on' redirect his hands to what you would like. If you dont want him to start by touching your butt, take his arms and wrap them around your shoulders and kiss him until his knees buckle.
With that kind of a responce, he will surely do something diffrent next time.

Tease.
All day, touch, tickle, play, anything!
Get his mind on sex BEFORE bed time. Again, doing this, you have control. A slow build up starting in the morning , should lead you to explosive sex by 5pm.

Make sexy ' rules'.
No sex after 8pm
No sex in the bedroom for a week
Or sex only on couch in days that end in Y

Rent a hotel room.

Park your car in the garage and lay on the hood naked, then call him in to fix a 'flat' .
;-)

Above all else TALK
Bring up the subject BEFORE you get in bed.
If you two tend to fight about it, bring it up at a restaurant where you cant raise your voice because of privacy issues. Talk about it before you get stressed over it, when you are both still in neutral mind sets. Be open and tell him that you dont get turned on by him simply squeezing your chest. In fact, i bet that can be a bit painful. Then suggest thins YOU like.
I dont like it when you grab my ____ in attempts to turn me on
But I do like it DURING sex. To turn me on, lets try _____.
Then see what HE likes and how he wants to be turned on.
You never know.. that conversation may be a turn on itself.. :-)

You got some good ideas shewolf....hm....what did you say you did before you became a mom? :wink:

Have you tried initiating?

My wife and I have different peak times too. I tend to be afternoon/early evening and she is a morning/middle of the night person.

I am NOT a morning person... but all it takes is a little kissing and a little touching and I'm ready to go in no time.

Next time you wantto have sex try initiating where and when instead of waiting for him to initiate... he won't turn you down.

Damn...shewolf beat me to it.

Hot damn, shewolf! If there is ever anytime that I want good sex advice, I am heading straight for your input! That was perfect as perfect can be I must say.

Fukced like a bunny rabbit..
kids change that.

dam, i wish i had a girl like kit kat. too bad you married a guy with no game

yeah tell me about it

Why do guys think that grabbing tits or the undercarriage will turn a girl on!!Surely by now they know we like to be treated differently to them.

Shewolf had the great idea of you making th first move.She also had some other great ideas.

SheWolf is right - you are going to have to make the changes so he can change. I am also speaking from experience here and living with a similar situation.

Men think like men - grab their penis they are ready to go, so they assume- grab her boobs and she'll be ready to go.

You are going to have to be very verbal. You will have to be honest. Tell him "I would really love it if you would get me to beg for it and to get me there you need to (fill in the blank)". When he gets it right praise him with positive noises and maybe a few little kisses. By the way, this positive reinforcement technique also works great with dogs. But back to the matter at hand:

If he follows you to bed like you say, get ready a little early, take a bath, put on something sexy - just stand behind him at the computer and touch his neck a little - make sure he physically sees you. Don't go to the bedroom - go read on the couch (no TV- it's like moth to flame for men) - I assume he will figure it out. If he doesn't (meaning he is a little dense)- call him over and tell him you want his company.

I think most men just don't know what women want and we want them to read our minds. Since the latter is not going to happen, you are going to have to (literally) take him by the hand and show him. He must have some positive traits or you would not still be with him. It will probably never be perfect (what is?), but I think most men want to please the woman they are with and with some guidance and adjustment on both your parts it is possible for all needs to be met.

change the atmosphere
well you could try to change your furniture around change the interior of your home make it look different change the atmosphere and things like that,maybe it will stimulate both of you a bit