What's wrong with my appearance ?

Reply Tue 8 Sep, 2020 10:49 am
Good day. I'm a guy, it so happened that for the last 5 years I have been ill, with orphan pathology, with a late debut, genetics, manifestations occur as acromegaly, which ultimately directly affects my appearance. But not the point, I then decided for myself, I will live as long as I can, the main thing I will live to the maximum, and then I faced reality, I began to pay attention to how the attitude of people towards me changed, dramatically, for the worse, so I am with the opposite gender, everywhere I am an outcast and rabble, it does not even reach the initial acquaintance or flirting, how much I read literature, psychology, that all this happens subconsciously among people, the assessment of others, I noticed this very much on myself. Only one more big problem, for a long time I realized that specifically, the truth is not someone who will not tell when, even if you even ask directly how many psychologists (women) even had on this issue in person, but I came to the conclusion that more than one psychologist will not appreciate you objectively, besides, you pay money for this, for your money, he will not tell you the truth, or something bitter. But I myself cannot fully adequately assess myself. Even through good and successful photos, if it was possible to arrange a meeting with a girl. then after the first meeting, there was nothing further, as you understand the excuse, then you can come up with any. Although I will note that you can go on for a long time with communication, tact, politeness, and so on, I have no problems, on the contrary, in this I differ for the better from the majority of men.

Let it finally be the bitter truth, for me this is not news and will change little, and will not make it worse, but I want to know what in this regard destroys my social and personal life.

And tell me, is it true that all modern smartphones, they embellish a person more in comparison with reality and are not entirely objective?





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Reply Tue 8 Sep, 2020 10:50 am
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Reply Tue 8 Sep, 2020 11:12 am
I'm sorry, the text was duplicated for some reason
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Reply Tue 8 Sep, 2020 11:16 am
I want to know what in this regard destroys my social and personal life.

That answer is always the same no matter who is asking - You do.

How you see and perceive yourself is what counts, because that is how you portray yourself. A simplistic example. If Person A is in a wheelchair and considers that an almost insurmountable issue .. Then that is precisely what it is. Their conversation evolves around the chair, it's issues and so forth ... Whereas a wheelchair is simply a form of transport, just like legs.

Next, you have to approach the right type of female .... Girl A from the supermarket checkout has no interest in what you read, as she can't read properly anyway ... So you need Girl B who does read, who is Sapio sexual as they say these days (for who knows what reason)

In truth I have no idea what these pictures of a perfectly normal looking male are supposed to be proving or disroving.

It seems to me that the world of 'Smart phone dating' is akin to picking up a girl in a nightclub ... Myself I had a girlfriend since age 12, I have been married for 40+ years of my adult life, I have been out with many different females ... Never met one of them on a dance floor. All of them highly intelligent. My wife of decades is a Dr of Psychology & of Criminology.

Maybe you need to think about a different approach, get your own mind in order and give the air head females a miss.

Reply Tue 8 Sep, 2020 12:46 pm
the fact of the matter is that there are no those who at the beginning would not look at their appearance
Reply Tue 8 Sep, 2020 08:47 pm
I think you're cute, and better looking than average.

Have you looked around at human beings in general?

Reply Wed 9 Sep, 2020 10:06 pm
Yes, I see people, nevertheless everything is going well for them
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Reply Sun 13 Sep, 2020 11:38 pm
If you are having trouble with dating, it isn't your looks. I cannot imagine what it would be, but it isn't your physical appearance.
Reply Mon 14 Sep, 2020 02:12 am
I don't think there is anything wrong with your appearance....I don't know how old you are, but as we advance in age we become more comfortable and assured . Try to relax and make sure this a neutral group that you would like to become acquainted. One word of caution, if they ridicule you, make fun of you or find other ways to behave like jerks...dump them, drop them like a hot potato...because ridicule is not friendly, and it is designed to hurt you.

If that happens, get away as fast as you can........get back to your family and old friends. Good luck.
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Reply Mon 14 Sep, 2020 07:35 am
The key to an "active social life" is being active. You go out and get a social life: it will never, ever come to you.
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Reply Mon 21 Dec, 2020 06:24 am
It seems to me that the problem is not in your appearance, but in your head.
Because everything is fine with your appearance.
I think that maybe after the illness you became less confident. And now it seems to you that people treat you worse because of your appearance, although I'm sure that's not true.
The same goes for girls. Maybe you don't have a relationship with them because they don't like your character or your behavior, or because you're insecure. There can be many reasons, but for some reason, you think it's just your appearance.
Therefore, it is better for you to focus on your self-esteem and your inner world.
First, you have to love yourself, then others will love you.
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Reply Thu 24 Dec, 2020 01:52 am
You look nice, don't care, Bro)
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