1. I do not accept your claim that "[my] side is the more violent side".
2. I believe you are playing a (rather silly) con game. You are cherry picking a set of events to prove the claim that you started with. You are controlling the rules of the game (and changing the rules as the game proceeds) and you are still having trouble winning.
3. Even if I did accept your claim, I don't see why it matters. I have no problem condemning the violence from my side. I wish you could do the same.