Do you know where the term 'Gaslighting' even comes from?
If person A keeps on telling person B which they think, but person B just keeps on splitting hairs and 'digging' ... It is enough to make anyone angry, it is really irritating. What interests you is purely yourself, you obviously have low self esteem and want/desire constant bolstering from any and all people you come across.
quote: Now comes the more confusing part
That made me laugh; it is all confusing, your ability to put across what you are trying to say is confused and truly hard to fathom. My wife is a Dr of Psychology and she agrees with me on that.
It appears you want to sleep with guys you like the sound of, but you think they are not interested in you just sex.
The answer is: Yes; No; Maybe
There is no hard and fast answer, it has to be taken on an individual case.
However, I would have to point out that these dating apps seem to be a 'One night stand' mill, designed for people to have meaningless sex (for sex is meaningless without true affection shared)
Maybe get off the apps and try to meet someone in physical life. Maybe also attempt to say what you mean precisely in 100 words, not ramble for 1000.